10 of My Favorite Posts

Favorite Posts of MMI’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging!

Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings

Find God’s Redemptive View

Peacemaker or Peacekeeper?

How I was a Right-Fighter

How to Apologize Effectively

Why Your Spouse Can’t Meet Your Needs

Does Forgiving Require Reconciliation?

The Price of Retaliating

Are You too Close to Your Spouse?

Shame on You?!

Also, if you’re interested in my “Sloppy Joe Time” videos, visit the Messy Marriage Youtube Channel, where you’ll find 26 videos on all the sloppy expectations we tend to have in marriage that I add to regularly.

By the way, this week my church is holding their annual Kid’s Bible Kamp (KBK) and since I’m helping out, I won’t be blog-hopping. I will be hosting Wedded Wednesday this week as usual and will try to visit as many blogs as I can on that day. But for this Sunday I’ll be resting in preparation for Monday, when I’ll be busy helping with probably around 800 or more kiddos at KBK!


What specific issue would you like to see addressed in a post or video at Messy Marriage?


  1. I loved does forgiving require reconciliation. I will be praying for you, the other leaders and all the kids attending this coming week. May God provide what is needed and make His presence known. Love you!

    • Thanks for your encouragement, Mary. We appreciate the prayers as well! We’ve had a well over 100 degree heat index both yesterday and today at an outside Bible camp! Yikes! I’m mostly under a tent, but those little ones can get overheated in no time. Prayers are greatly appreciated! Love you too, girlfriend!

  2. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser says:

    This is a great list, an today I will be reading the ones that I missed when they first came out. Thanks!

    I helped out with a kids’ group just once. When I was asked to explain to a group of preteens how to cut down a tree, I started with…”OK, you wrap the detcord around the tree at least twice…”

    Ah, well, the kids liked it, even if the pastor turned a color I’ve never before (or since) seen in a clergyman.


    • I’m so glad you’re taking the time to go back and read some oldies of mine, Andrew. And that’s too funny about your instructions on “cutting a tree down!” I suppose that would be the easiest way, right??! ha! I guess you weren’t asked to share the following year probably? Lol! I do hope you are doing well. I keep praying for you daily but haven’t taken the time to check in on how you’ve been feeling lately. Let me know whenever you have the chance and motivation, friend.

  3. Nice! I’ve found great posts again.