Today I want to talk about the connection I see between my times of study in God’s word and how it heals and helps my marriage.
As a counselor and life-coach, I’ve gathered an arsenal of communication and relationship strategies and principles over the years that have been very beneficial to my marriage. I apply them and use them regularly.
But . . .
So today I will be discussing . . .
3 ways my studies continually help and heal my marriage . . .
1. Keeps me focused on godly and right thoughts and behaviors.
For example, my reading today was 2 Peter 1:5-6, where the Word challenges me to rely on Christ’s divine power within me to grow my faith by adding goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, and godliness. So my focus for this day is on adding “self-control.” #Ineedthisone
I prayed about self-control this morning, asking God to reveal where I’m lacking it. Much of my lack of self-control begins in my mind. I vacillate between being fearful or insecure and being prideful in my relationships (especially with my husband).
So I am seeking God’s power whenever I’m fearful of showing my husband affection or affirming him in some way (yes, this is a major weakness for me).
I’m also seeking God’s power whenever I’m prideful and want to argue about how something should be done or said with my husband. Remember I’m a counselor! Ha! So I always see where the “problem” is, even though the problem is often in and with me!
2. Encourages me when I am discouraged or feel alone.
Let me use that 2 Peter 1:5-6 as yet another example. In verse 5, Peter reminds me that Christ-followers have God’s “divine nature” within them. That reminds me that I am NEVER alone, even though it might sometimes seem that way. It also reminds me that all I have to do in situations that are discouraging or alienating is to turn to “Christ within me” to find His power for any challenge.
3. Gives me a portal into Christ’s heart—the ultimate Lover of my soul.
Each day that I read, whether it is in the New Testament or the Old, I come to understand God more. And that knowledge deepens my faith in Him and my trust in His unconditional love. This keeps my heart full of love when I feel like my husband isn’t loving me as well or as much as I would like. This is SO CRUCIAL to staying encouraged and persevering in marriage!
But I can’t really sense any of that as clearly unless I am consistently studying God’s word AND, in my opinion, really gleaning the truths in a thorough and application-oriented way.
So that brings me to my 6-week Bible study of 1 Peter that I’m offering through a private Facebook group. My study notes will only take you about 5 minutes to read each day, but I also provide a method for you to glean these Scriptural gems for yourself, if you’d like.
Also, my studies are not simply “devotionals” with a general theme. I take the verses bit-by-bit, scouring for what these words and phrases mean. I take the time to do extra research in commentaries, so that you can understand these truths and the contexts that they are in better.
My first posting of the notes—which are meant for your own studies Monday through Friday—will go live on Sunday evening April 2, 2017. If you’d like to be added to the group that is currently forming, friend me at Beth Oster Steffaniak and request this. Here’s a sample of my study notes from 1 Samuel. Remember the study and notes are free and comes with absolutely no pressure from me!
I just want to offer to others what has been so transformational in my own life and marriage. 🙂
What is something God’s word has revealed that you need to work on in your life and/or marriage?
What holds you back from getting into God’s word on a daily basis?
I’d love to have you check out a 30 minute podcast interview that Belah Rose did with me recently on how to Overcome Insecurity with Vulnerability in Marriage. This is part 1 of a 2 part series, so you can check it out next Tuesday for the follow up interview as well. 😉
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