5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

Text Your Love1. I liked the way you … yesterday.

They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten his/her day—with words that encourage and build up. Besides, you do know that whatever you focus on in your mate is more likely to be repeated by him or her in the future, right?! Yikes! Now that can be convicting!

2. Let’s make time to talk later about …
Julie Sanders from ComeHaveaPeace brought up a good point in the comments on Monday … Even though we shouldn’t have deep conversations through text messages, we can certainly give a “heads up” to our spouse, inviting him/her to prepare for a deeper conversation later. I know I always love advance warning for just about anything that might take time, effort or attitude adjustment.

3. I’m thinking of you and can’t wait to see you when you get home.
This is just an affectionate and verbal “warm fuzzy” that let’s our spouses know s/he is on our minds. And the beautiful flipside to this is … it puts us on our spouse’s mind as well! It also sets the stage for a loving greeting when we do make it back home together. I have to give credit to Laura Lee Groves from OutNumberedMom, not only for this specific text, but also for the idea to provide 5 positive texts we should send our spouses. Thanks so much, Laura Lee!

4. I’m praying for you!
You could even include a written out “text prayer” that reveals exactly how you prayed or are praying for your spouse. If your spouse is a believer, this can be extremely comforting to know and will bond you, not just emotionally or relationally, but spiritually with your mate as well.

5. I really want to … with you, my love!
I’ll leave this one up to your imagination and creativity, but sending your spouse an invitation text to do something special, romantic or fun-filled is a great way to bless them, especially on this Valentines Day, but all year around as well! Then make sure to put some thought and planning into your special date …

Here are some great date ideas I found on our last Wedded Wednesday Link-up – Kathryn at Heartful Home, as well as, Six Sisters (via Kathryn’s post), and Jenni Mullinex’s blog at Live Called. There’s also some great Valentines ideas at Lilah’s blog – Just a Sparrow. I used her “mirror” idea just this past week to encourage my spouse. So be sure to check all of these great blogs out!


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Also linking up with NOBH, Works for Me Wednesday and To Love Honor and Vacuum



  1. 5 sweet Valentine’s gifts … 52 weeks a year! love these compelling invitations!

  2. bluecottonmemory says:

    What sweet reminders;)

  3. My husbands love language is words so texting is one way I can show I love him. Thanks for sharing these ideas!

  4. Great ideas, Beth! Thanks for linking to my stay-at-home date night ideas. 🙂

  5. OutnumberedMom says:

    Love these ideas, Beth! My husband doesn’t text much, so I know always know a text will get his attention. Glad I discovered Wedded Wednesday…I just may become a regular! Thanks.

  6. Megan@DoNotDisturb says:

    You share some great ideas. It’s nice to think about how such a simple thing can make a big difference.


  7. Will put your blog button in my blogroll! 🙂 – Kathryn @ Singing Through the Rain

  8. Great ideas Beth! I love all of them.

  9. Great text ideas. My favorite is #1. It makes me feel appreciated and noticed by my husband when he says he appreciates something specific, and I try to do this with him as well. But this is a good reminder….I should copy down these 5.

  10. Thank you for these ideas, Beth. Texting really can improve, not hinder, communication!

  11. Yeah, now I just need to set some reminders to text these here and there during those 52 weeks in my iPhone and I’ll be all set! Thanks so much for coming by, Linda! I always look forward to seeing you in my comments, my friend!

  12. Thanks so much for your kind words and for linking up, friend!

  13. I hadn’t thought about how our spouse’s love language could be ministered to through this, but you’re so right, Christina. Thanks as always for your sweet support and encouragement!

  14. I’m just glad you came by with your great ideas last week–and this week too, Jenni! I always love a blogger who lifts up marriage! 🙂

  15. Yeah, I don’t practice these as much as I should. It’s been a good exercise for me to think about and now to live out, Laura Lee. And I’m so grateful to you for the suggestion! Thanks for linking up and being an encourager in my life!

  16. Yeah, it seems like the simple things really make a difference in our marriages, doesn’t it, Megan? And thanks so much for the wisdom you and Justin share at your blog! It’s nice to know there are other bloggers who want to build up marriages! Thanks for linking up again too! I hope you make it a weekly habit! 🙂

  17. That would be great, Kathryn! I really appreciate your great resources at your place and your encouragement and linking up here! 🙂

  18. Thanks so much, Ngina. I’m so glad you found them all helpful. Now we just need to do them! Pray for me on this and I’ll lift you and your marriage up as well, my friend!

  19. Yes, it’s so important to be affirmed by our spouses, Gail. That’s something that my husband and I are “scheduling” into our day lately–affirming. But now I need to get busy and text him that affirmation! Changing it up a bit is a pleasant surprise to any relationship. And thanks so much for linking up and coming by, my friend!

  20. Yes, it’s a small thing that can reap great benefits in our marriages–if done in the right way and spirit. Your friendship and encouraging words always lift me up too, Becky. And you didn’t even have to text me to do it! 🙂

  21. This is all about being proactive – not reactive. (my soft spot around texting/phoning) I love the idea of taking the lead to get a positive conversation started. Great ideas – thank you!

  22. Exactly, Lori! I like that way of putting it. And what “messy marriage” couldn’t use a little positive conversation? 😉 Thanks so much for stopping by. I don’t know if I saw your link up there, but I’ll swing by your place next, Lori!

  23. I thought after the last post I’d have to get rid of my “smart” phone but now i know my phone can be used for positive things also. HaHa! As usual I love and appreciate your insight! So #5 is approving “sexting” with our spouse??

  24. My husband is a real estate agent who is very busy on the phone and in person with clients for most of the day so texting is how we communicate during the day. He often can’t pick up the phone so it’s just easier that way. We do, however, love to flirt over the phone during the day. Lots of fun. 😉

  25. I love this post! I text my husband frequently to encourage him and I’m always looking for new ideas of things to text him. These are great ideas!

  26. Using the smart phone for good, positive texts? Why, yes ma’am! Thanks so much for coming by and always bringing a smile to my face, Becky. As to your last question, do you really expect a pastor’s wife to encourage “sexting”? Haha!

  27. Yes, there are plenty of couples just like you, Elizabeth, who only have the phone as the means of connecting for long periods of time. I think it’s great that you’ve used it to your advantage–building in fun and flirtation! Thanks so much for coming by and linking up!

  28. I’m so glad this gives you some ideas for the future. I think it’s great that you’re trying to connect with your spouse in a loving and fun way. 🙂 Thanks so much for your encouragement, Hannah!


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