I’m answering in the form of a video an MM reader’s question today on the issue of listening to his wife’s pain when coming to the reconciliation table.
Unfortunately, the process of reconciliation can be tough, even brutal for both parties. But it’s sort of like surgery. Whenever we need it, we submit ourselves to the pain of the process.
After all, who wants to keep any kind of cancer or destructive growth in your body?
We are all more than happy to submit to the surgeon’s knife in those cases!
Click on my “less than 5 minute” video below to hear more about my thoughts . . .
Whoever wants to share his/her feelings with a spouse should be the “speaker” and complete the “Processing Relational Conflict” exercise first. Once that’s completed, schedule a time with the other spouse to listen, using the “Reflective Listening Guide.”
Often these kinds of conversations end up going sideways, so if you sit down to have this difficult conversation and it ends up spiraling into an argument or even a “back and forth” discussion, find an objective third-party like a pastor, godly friend, counselor or life-coach to help you walk through this conversation more amicably and constructively.
What are your fears about having a difficult conversation with your spouse?
How has “listening” to your spouse’s pain brought healing to your marriage?
I’m collecting marriage or relationships questions to answer in future videos. If you’re interested in posing a particular question consider taking my brief two question survey here. Be sure to describe the issue along with your question in the survey’s first question box. Thanks so much!
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