Because Valentines Day is less than a week away, I wanted to turn my focus to romance and the power of giving just the right gift to each of our unique partners.
I’d like to use Gary Chapman’s book and concept based on five distinct love languages* as the basis for a Valentines gift-giving guide today.
Start by completing the free online profile/inventory at his site to discover what your and your mate’s love languages are.
Perhaps your spouse isn’t willing to do this. If so, you might come up with a fairly reliable result by completing the inventory for him/her based on how you think he or she would answer.
1. Words of Affirmation . . .
~ Write a love letter that shares what you love about your mate in the way he/she:
- Performs their job(s)
- Parents your children
- Shows you affection
- Looks or dresses
- Encourages you
- Lives out their passion(s)
- Lives out their faith
- Demonstrates their talent(s)
- Impacts other people’s lives
You can also snag a free love letter template, that provides over 150 quotes, poems, sayings to inspire and create your design! Woot, woot!
~ Fill a jar with compliments and affirmations about your spouse, then every day (perhaps at bedtime or meal times) encourage your spouse to open one more up and read it—with or without you present. Go here for other examples of how to do this.
~ Schedule a romantic dinner for the two of you and either read the letter above or simply share all the ways you’ve seen your spouse excel and grow in this past year.
2. Acts of Service . . .
~ Think of at least ten ways that you could do some “service” for your spouse that he/she would love. Write these on index cards or come up with some beautifully designed coupons to give your mate. But be sure to put them in a gift-wrapped box or lovely gift bag!
~ Fix your spouse’s favorite meal and dessert for an intimate dinner-for-two on Valentines Day.
~ Give your mate a decorative chalkboard to write out 3 ways he/she would like you to help him or her in the months to come, then hang it on the wall as a reminder to get those new jobs done. Pssst, crossing them off feels so good! 😉
Quality Time . . .
~ Similar to the Acts of Service cards above, write out as many creative date ideas as you can, then give it to your mate in a gift-wrapped box or bag.
Here are some ideas:
- Dance the night away or take Dance Lessons together
- Visit several meaningful spots around town from your past—sharing how special those memories are.
- Double-date with good friends
- Rock Climbing
- Take a bus or trolley tour of a big city near you
- Binge watch your spouse’s favorite TV series or movie—complete with your spouse’s favorite snacks!
~ Go out for a romantic dinner, but ask each other some of the 365 questions that the Generous Wife came up with. Then really listen and reflect back what your mate is saying.
Receiving Gifts . . .
~ Take your mate out for a shopping spree.
You’ll probably need to set a spending limit here, but really have fun finding that perfect gift together.
~ Sometimes we don’t know what actual gift our mates would adore. So why not ask him or her to give you suggestions, then just be sure to get one of the things he/she suggested . . . no substitutes or inferior products allowed!
~ Combine the gift of “Quality Time” with “Receiving Gifts” by planning and paying for a special trip the two of you can take together.
Physical Touch . . .
~ Pay for a couple’s massage or plan to give your mate one yourself.
If you give your mate one, go all out with massage oils, scented candles, dim lighting and relaxing music. Check out Cassie’s post over at TrueAgape for extra pointers.
~ Plan, pay for and schedule a couple’s getaway that includes lots of time for hugs, kisses and bow-chicka-wow-wow. 😉
~ Go for the gold by combining an evening out for a romantic dinner, presenting a gift of flowers and/or chocolates, and infusing it with lots of affection shown all throughout, but especially once you get back home. If you catch my drift! 😉
What other “love language” ideas can you add to my suggestions?
What is your love language and how would you like your mate to give to you this Valentine’s Day?
* Click here to check out 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
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