Are You Consumed with Status?

Continuing on in our “Consumed” Series …

I don’t know about your family, but my kids are all gearing up for the start of the school year. Thankfully my two oldest sons are out of the rat race of middle and high school, where the pressures to be a part of the cool crowd are stronger than the odor emanating from a middle school boy’s gym locker! All joking aside, even as adults, we never really escape that strong pressure.

We all want to be liked, accepted and have a certain level of status in life.

No one wants to be labeled a Loser, a Nobody or simply unimportant. And sometimes we even marry in hopes of being someone—gaining status.

Perhaps, we’ve become consumed with our spouse providing …

  • A great job that allows for an unlimited spending allowance
  • An attractive appearance, so we can feel proud to enter a room with him or her
  • A compliment to our personality (e.g. We’re shy, our spouse is outgoing; We’re indecisive, our spouse is in control, etc.)
  • The ability to bolster our sagging self-esteem—a job that is never-winning battle!
  • A marriage partner, because all our friends are married, so … “it’s the thing to do” or “be”

If you find yourself in any of these scenarios, then you’re probably headed for a messy meltdown in your marriage sooner rather than later.

I have to say, I’ve fallen prey to almost all of these consuming motivations from time to time with my husband (all except for the “unlimited spending allowance!” Not on a pastor’s salary!)

And although these scenarios aren’t all bad, when they consume us, they provide temporary comfort at best, and at their worst, are not what God wants for us. 

God designed us to find our worth—our status—in Him.

Yes, when we place our faith in Christ, He provides our “status.” Here’s just one example of what He provides …

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.” – Galatians 3:28-29 (NIV)

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Did you see that?  

We are heirs, even “co-heirs* with Christ”—the King of Kings!

That makes us royalty or as 1st Peter 2:9 states, “a royal priesthood.” Talk about having a great status! We can’t do any better than that, folks! Not even Camilla or Princess Catherine has accessed a better family. (Sorry, Queen Elizabeth!)

So the next time you’re consumed with improving your current status, don’t look to your spouse (or anyone else for that matter)!  

Look to Christ and remember just how precious you are in His eyes.  

Check back on Wednesday when our “Consumed” topic will be “Are You Consumed with Status Quo?”

For further Bible Verses on your status as a believer in Christ, click here.
*Romans 8:17

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  • How easily we tend to look for our identity in others instead of Christ… Thank you for sharing this reminder.

  • Becky Kopitzke

    A beautiful message, Beth. I’m a little afraid to read the next one… status quo. I have a feeling it will be convicting. 🙂 Until then!

  • You’re so right, Beth, that we still struggle with status issues even as adults. But what a great status we have as co-heirs with Christ! May I remember that when I’m tempted to fall prey to the world’s standards.

  • Alicia Bruxvoort

    As always, I’m convicted and challenged here in your space. Just the word STATUS bugs me.. but you’ve put some flesh on it- and now I’ve got to look a bit harder at my own heart. Thanks for the call to higher ground!

  • messymarriage

    Thank you, Jenni, for coming by and commenting!

  • messymarriage

    I hope it will be convicting too, Becky–convicting to me as well. Don’t you feel that your writing tends to reveal things to your own heart sometimes much more than it does to anyone else? Thanks so much for coming by and encouraging me!

  • messymarriage

    Yes, we don’t always think of our position in Christ as our “status” but I’m hoping it encourages people. I know it encourages me … and so do you, Lisa. Thanks so much for coming by! 🙂

  • messymarriage

    Wow, Alicia, what you’ve shared really encourages me. Thanks so much for your kind words and enjoy your upcoming break with your family! Hugs*

  • Laraj

    This is so true–this tendency to look to man for what only God can provide. Good thoughts, my friend! Looking to Him!

  • Diane Tolley

    Oh, this is such a timely, much-needed message. It is so easy to follow the status-seeking world. To worry about whether you have more than the people next door. The right clothes. House. Car. Spouse. The worldy. Instead we need to focus on the eternal. That which can never be stolen from us, or that cannot be destroyed. Thank you for sharing this wonderful message on NOBH!

  • messymarriage

    Thanks so much for coming by and weighing in, Diane! I’ll have to swing by your place next! 🙂