Are You Making Your Spouse Your savior?

I had a very messy marriage back in the day, and this was directly related to an even messier view of my identity. My lagging sense of self worth set me up for pursuing my husband as my savior, instead of pursuing my Savior as my Savior.

Oh sure, I’d received Christ as my Savior when I was a child, but as I began to follow Him in my life, and especially once married, I let the distractions of my own insecurities draw me off the narrow path and into a ditch.

I’m not saying I lost my salvation, but I surely lost my way when it came to understanding who Christ was in my life, as well as who He wasn’t. In other words, my Savior was not my husband, nor could my flawed human husband replace Christ in my life. Nonetheless, I was determined to make that work!

You can read the rest of my story by clicking here, as I’m blessed to be guest posting over at Lori Schumaker’s incredible blog, Searching For Moments, today.

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  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Just got back from Lori’s site. Great work, Beth!

    • Thank you, Andrew! I appreciate your continued friendship even as you suffer! Prayers being lifted on your behalf!

  • Thank you, Beth, for this awesome post! Your wisdom and counsel on marriage have always been such an encouragement to me. It was a joy to have you share how identity impacts our marriages as a part of the #ChosenandWorthy series! You are such a blessing!
    Hugs,
    Lori

    • Thank YOU, Lori, for including me in your Chosen and Worthy series. It’s been all my pleasure and thank you for the kind words. You are a blessing to so many, so never forget that, girlfriend!

  • Fascinating perspective, Beth … yearning for our spouse to come in and rescue us … or insisting that we do that for him.

    • Thank you, Linda. I watched too many Disney movies and Love Boat episodes, I guess! ha! Thanks for encouraging me here at my place! Love ya!