Marriage Mistake #8 – Let My Spouse’s Bad Behavior Control Mine

The Mistaken Game My husband and I have had a game that we carried from our childhood into our marriage. No, we don’t play “Ken and Barbie” into all hours of the night, nor do we hold “who can belch the loudest?” contests either! You see, it’s the age old game of “Tit for Tat.” […]

This is the Stuff . . .

I’ve heard a song on the radio lately that I think captures the essence of what many messy marrieds struggle with everyday. Often it’s not the big problems that get us into a mess, but the little irritations that multiply and grow. The song is so new that there isn’t a full-fledged video, but I […]

Are You Wonder Wife or Super Hubby?

I don’t think many people will debate me on this, but I really think that there are about as many neat freaks in the world as there are slobs. However, I have another theory that many might not agree with so easily. I don’t think we can apply that principle to messiness in marriage. In […]

Are You Fencing out Your Spouse?

(The following post is only true for those who do not have abusive marriages.) My husband is a huge football fan. And since I’m not, I’ve learned to find other activities at this time of year, so that he’s free to cuddle up with his remote and zero in on the end zone.  Even though […]

He Came to Get Messy

Sometimes we forget what a sacrifice Jesus made in coming to earth as a human, experiencing all the messiness of life. But I’m so grateful that he didn’t leave us in our messes. Take a look at this video and be reminded of how the God of the Universe can relate to you and me. […]

Do You Have a Messy Marriage?

My boys have always had a way of ignoring messes. They can live in their messy rooms for months and not be bothered by the piles of stuff that must be navigated like an obstacle course or a mine field in order to get to the other side. If you asked them, “Do you think […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

By Stacey Micklevitz One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic, which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the way to our […]

Blessings in the Messes

Here’s a true confession: Coming clean about having a messy marriage was and is, at times, scary. But lately I’ve been realizing that having had a messy marriage is a blessing. Let me explain. Back when I was young and unmarried, I had this romanticized idea about love and marriage. I felt like there had […]

Four Emotions that Heat Up Conflict

Have you ever tried to take a hot cake out of the oven without potholders? That would be crazy, right? You’d probably not only drop the cake and ruin it, but you’d also burn your hands in the process. However, if you waited until the cake cooled down, it wouldn’t be a problem to handle […]