Today, while I, Beth, am gone with my pastor hubby to the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Leadership Conference in Queens, New York, Cassie Celestain, blogger at TrueAgape has graciously offered to host Wedded Wednesday for me! I hope you’ll check out Cassie’s bio below for more on her ministry to marrieds.
Throughout the Bible we read about two becoming one flesh over and over again. First, in Genesis 2:24,
“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Later, in Mark 10:8 Jesus says almost the exact same words. Then, in Ephesians 5:31 Paul quotes Genesis once again. When speaking of marriage this is the verse often sited. So what exactly does “become one flesh” mean? We are going to take a little closer look!
What Becoming One Does Mean
“Be joined” in Genesis speaks both of a physical embrace but also a more general aspect of the marital bonding. If you look up the word “one” in the dictionary you can find the following definition: “existing, acting, or considered as a single unit, entity, or individual.” We know that as a couple we are to make decisions and create an identity together. We have to remember us and our spouse become “we” not just “me and you.”
What Becoming One Does NOT Mean
When we become one we do not lose our personal identities. We still have our own goals and ambitions. We each have our own pursuits that we seek after. Oneness does not mean “sameness”. We still have characteristics that make each of us who we are.
How to Become One
Oneness is not automatic, but created over time! That is often why people say they love their spouse more and more as their marriage goes on. Sharing thoughts, feelings, dreams, joys, frustrations, sorrows and activities all help create oneness. Establishing a time once a day to connect with your spouse to share these things aids in forming unity. Becoming one can take place during morning coffee, mid-morning break, dinner time or after the kids are in bed. Any time that you can set aside to daily connect with your spouse will produce more oneness. Take the initiate and make the commitment!
When do you connect with your spouse and what helps you to keep that a priority in your marriage?
Cassie Celestain of TrueAgape is a wife, runner and a marriage and family blogger. She believes respect, trust, understanding and willingness creates happy marriages. She strives to keep those things the main focus in her marriage and wants to challenge others to do the same. You can get her updates at Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter.
*Photo by Stephen Cummings and edited by Beth Steffaniak
Now it’s time for Wedded Wednesday!
Grab our new WW Button Code!
Check out our WW rules here.