Do You Have a "Wait" Problem?

Yeah, it’s a new year and we’re all trying to get rid of those pesky pounds we’ve put on over the holidays, but that’s not the “wait” problem I’m talking about today. No, I’m talking about my inability to trust God when I don’t have the answers that I think I should. And believe me, I often feel like I’m in waiting mode in some area of my life. Can you relate?

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Perhaps you’re waiting on:

  • Your spouse to wake up to your marriage and really make you a priority in his or her life?
  • Your circumstances to change from constant pain and pressure to a smooth patch?
  • Your patience to grow when your spouse tests it?
  • Your financial situation to get better or at least to agree with your spouse on what to do?
  • Your marriage to move from messy to at least manageable?
  • Your children to realize that you are for them and not against them?
  • Your incessant need to argue with your spouse to melt into godly surrender when the heat’s on?

Well, whatever it is that you’re waiting on, we all can agree that sometimes the waiting feels harder than the “not having.”

For me, the hardest part about waiting is that I don’t really believe that God has my best in mind. I think that I know better what my best is and usually my best involves getting something now … not tomorrow, not next month or certainly not next year, but NOW!

I’m missing something when I have that mentality. And no, I’m not talking about whatever it is that I am waiting on God to give me. I’m missing the fact that the waiting is often more important than whatever it is that I want. I’m forgetting that the waiting is God’s gym for building my spiritual muscles.

Dave Harvey in his book, When Sinners Say I Do, says …

“Waiting works things into our souls and our marriages that nothing else can.”

In other words, the very things we need are created and strengthened in us as we wait. We can’t bypass this process of God. If we do, we will not be blessed, but rather indulged. I don’t know about you but whenever I’m indulged for any length of time, I become a very self-absorbed, empty person. It’s not a “filling up” that I’m doing when I bypass God’s wait.

Now, don’t think that I’ve got this all down, folks!

I’m preaching this one to myself first and foremost. But I also know that waiting is what a lot of you are struggling with right now. I just want to encourage you to know that I believe …

God is His most active in your life while you wait.

You may not see the work because it’s done in the “unseen realm” but He is working for your benefit and for His.

Trust me in this … scratch that—Trust Him!

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” –James 1:2-3 (NIV)

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” –2 Cor. 4:16-18 (NIV)

One more thing, I just want to point out that we have been honored to be included in Catholic Dating Site’s Top 100 Marriage and Relationship Blogs. Click on the link and discover some other great Christian blogs out there on their list!

photo by Barkaw

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Linking up with NOBH, Monday’s Musings, Matrimonial Monday, and Playdates with God 

  • Love this title…and yes, I do have a “wait” problem. Unfortunately. But it does lead me more to my knees asking for more faith. Thanks, Beth.

  • OutnumberedMom

    YES! Even as we wait, “we do not lose heart.” Love those verses in 2 Corinthians. I wrote about waiting on dreams today…we seem to be on the same wavelength. Loved this, Beth.

  • Heather C

    This post reminds me of the fact that some of God’s most important words are also said in a whisper and not in a shout. Only when we wait quietly do we hear the whispers and learn. Nice post.

  • Kimberly Green

    But I want it NOW!!!! Thanks for reminding me I am never an afterthought for God. I am always on his mind. He is always actively loving and teaching me….and WAITING for me to trust Him.

  • Yes, that’s one of the many blessings of having to wait–we really learn how to pray and trust. Thanks so much for coming by, Lisa, and for your bloggy friendship, my friend!

  • Yes, they are some of my favorites too, Laura Lee. I’ll have to swing by your blog and read your perspective on this very difficult thing called “waiting.” And thanks so much for your kind words here.

  • Yes, when we wait “patiently” I agree that our ear is tuned to what God wants to say to us–especially in those quiet whispers. Thanks so much for adding to the discussion about waiting on God, Heather. Your wise words and support are greatly appreciated!

  • Kind of reminds me of a Willy Nelson song, Kimberly! haha! But knowing we are always on God’s mind is SOOO much better. Thanks so much for your encouragement. It never goes unnoticed, my friend!

  • Congrats on being included in that top 100!

  • laura

    “…the waiting is God’s gym for building my spiritual muscles.” Wow, I love that, Beth. And isn’t it the truth? If I’ve learned this lesson once, I’ve learned it a million times. Somehow my heart doesn’t seem to realize that it applies to more than one circumstance :). Wise words as always, my friend.

  • Wonderful post Beth, it ministers to me on many levels! I’m a work in progress too and I appreciate encouragement and reminders in this journey.
    Congrats on being listed!

  • congrats on being recognized! you have a beautiful thing goin’ here, Beth!

    waiting is indeed a gift itself. a challenge, yes, but also a gift.
    this is so good.

  • Christina

    I struggle with waiting. Usually I go ahead and try to make things happen, which is never a good thing. Trust is the key to waiting. Congrats on the blog honor!

  • Thanks so much, Linda! Appreciate it!

  • Yes, it really is so hard to realize that truth in the middle of the waiting, Laura. It reminds me of how I can completely see how “crazy stupid” the Children of Israel were for repeating the same mistakes and then I go and repeat those same types mistakes. I guess I just need to remember, “there but for grace go I.” Thanks so much for coming by and encouraging!

  • It’s good to know that even though we are both “works in progress” at least we are on this journey to pursue God together! Thanks for your encouragement, Ngina!

  • Thanks so much, Kelli. And yes, waiting is a gift. But like most gifts, I want to unwrap it way before I should! 😉 Thanks, my friend, for your continued friendship and support!

  • Yep, I’m like that too, Christina. It’s so hard to remember that God’s got this. But I’m slowly learning that He is faithful! ‘Bout time, I’d say! haha! Thanks so much for your encouragement, my friend.

  • Ugochi Jolomi

    Waiting sure isn’t easy beth, but God helps us if we ask Him and depend on Him. Thanks a lot for sharing, have a super blessed day!
    Love

  • Hi Beth, I’m a new follower from the “Matrimonial Mondays” link up. I sure haven’t learned to wait yet. I know this because God, in His wisdom, keeps giving me opportunities to LEARN!

  • rboerner

    AGREED! Waiting is so very hard but God has shown me a number of times how when I wait, His timing is so perfect and I usually receive more blessings when I wait. I think one of the most important points of waiting is to remember that this life as a Christ follower is NOT about us. I love the verse you shared from James. It is one of my favorite because I can remind myself to be joyful when those trials come along.

  • “For me, the hardest part about waiting is that I don’t really believe that God has my best in mind. I think that I know better what my best is and usually my best involves getting something now … not tomorrow, not next month or certainly not next year, but NOW!”

    This is so true in my marriage and my heart. It’s a constant struggle to trust God when I don’t really believe in Him. Loved the clever “wait problem.” This was so encouraging to read.

  • Yes, remembering this life is not about us is so crucial, Becky, but as you’ve said, so very hard to live out. I want to die to myself but, boy, when the heats on it’s a real battle with my pride and sinful nature not to give in and do things “my” way. 🙂 Thanks so much for your continued encouragement, my friend. Hugs to you!

  • Yes, the key is always our trust or belief in God’s power. It’s simple when we say it but so much harder to live out our faith, right, Hannah?! Thanks for your encouraging words. They mean a lot, my friend!