Do You Really Want to Get Well?

sick butterfly

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I like the perks that come with being sick.

When you’re sick, you usually …

  • Don’t have to do your daily responsibilities.
  • Have someone to take care of your many needs.
  • Are given more understanding and concern from those who are healthy.
  • Can nestle down into some comfy covers and sleep all day—and no one will think you’re a slob.

These are just a few of the advantages of being sick. And if you’ve been sick for a long timelet’s say in a messy marriage kind of waythen it can be just plain scary to step out of that familiar cocoon of unhealthiness and spread your wings through the taking of responsibility for your life and marriage.


Not too long ago I came across the passage in John 5 where Jesus heals the invalid by the pool of Bethesda. And Jesus’ words (verse 6) to the paralyzed man struck me …

“Do you want to get well?”  

I was convicted because I had been (and, truthfully, still am) hurting in several areas of my life. Now, these areas are not directly related to the health of my marriage, but I’ve come to realize that any pain I experience in life directly affects not just my attitude, but all of my relationships including and especially my marriage

With this realization, Christ seemed to be whispering to me …

“Do you want to get well, Beth?”

Unfortunately, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I want to throw up (not literally) the white flag and give up on the whole “getting wellthing.  

I don’t like the pain that healing often requires.  

Sometimes I just want to be and stay the victim. That’s when I hear a voice in the back of my head yelling …

Excuse me?! A little sympathy here would be nice!

Okay, okay, I must admit … I’ve taken enough time to nurse my wounded heart. I’ve prayed. I’ve cried. I’ve read the Word and how it applies to my situation. I’ve sought comfort from loved ones. I’ve taken all the necessary steps to “get well.” So now it’s up to me to “Get up! Pick up my mat and walk” (v. 8a) …

To surrender my heart to the One who is the Great Healer.

Are you like me? Do you fear what it might mean to “get well” in your marriage and life? Do you want to stay cocooned in your pain, so that you won’t have to face the pain of recovery? If so, just don’t gloss over the fact that you’re choosing to stay sick when Christ can help you “get well.” 

“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.” Isaiah 53:5 (NIV)

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  • Stephiecoulter

    Oh, the days I just want to stay in bed and dwell on my pain and spend time with God. But I choose to get up and go each day for the sake of my family. I couldn’t have said this better myself. Bless you Beth.

  • Nikki_carrion

    I really like this post today Beth. Recovery and healing often is painful and uncomfortable and it is scary to venture into the unknown. But, God wants to walk with us through it and He knows that there is a better life on the other side and He wants us to live abundant lives trusting in Him. Praise God that He promises to be everything we need at all times and that there is NO darkness in Him. He is always good and always faithful. I have to remind myself of who He says He is throughout the day but it helps. Thanks for sharing

    Nikki

  • messymarriage

    Thanks so much for stopping by and for saying your very encouraging words, Stephie!

  • messymarriage

    Yeah, we really need to keep our eye on the fact that there is healing on the other side of this pain, if we will just trust God to walk with us. I know you “totally get this.” And I’m so glad you’ve chosen to “get well,” Nikki! Prayers coming your way!

  • Tara_pohlkottepress

    yes, it can be scary to heal! love your insight as always.

  • Good post on the connection between healing and desire to be healed. Way to bring it home for all of us!

  • I’ve been digging deep into this story for the last several months now. So I was really delighted to hear your take on it. That’s it, right there: “The choosing to stay sick.”