Today I’m continuing the series on the wounds of our past by focusing on how to bring healing to those wounds through a new spiritual and relational focus. This means delving a bit deeper into what must be done in tandem with any ongoing prayer/processing of wounds (that I’ve shared in past posts).
I believe we need to adopt and integrate some very important beliefs and follow certain steps moving forward, if we are to find deeper and more lasting healing. These are beliefs and steps that I have taken and continue to take. Walking this path has brought me healing that I hope you experience as well.
Taking the healing path …
1. Accept that you are human, flawed and wounded.
Stop for a moment and really consider this. You might feel as if you already accept that you are human. But if you struggle with a sense of shame, guilt, or run relentlessly toward perfectionism, then you have not fully accepted your humanity or wounds. You may even be steeped in denial … And this will only prove to hinder your healing.
One of my favorite verses is James 3:2a “We all stumble in many ways …” because it reminds me of this unchangeable reality. When I woke up to this fact many years ago, it brought such a freedom to my life and marriage. It helped me to learn to drop my guard and be authentic with my husband. That’s when true intimacy and connection could begin.
2. Use your wounds to love and comfort others better.
This is so powerful, people! 🙂
Consider the apostle Paul’s words …
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” ~2 Corinthians 1:3-4
You and I would not know how to comfort others if we did not experience similar struggles. I have so much more empathy and compassion for others, including and especially my husband, because of my own wounds. #priceless
That’s because there is true healing and blessed bonding that takes place when we do!
3. Rest in the truth that Christ knows how it feels to be wounded too.
We cannot feel bad about our wounds when we realize that our Savior and Lord was wounded for our sakes.
“He was wounded because of our rebellious deeds, crushed because of our sins; he endured punishment that made us well; because of his wounds we have been healed.” ~Isaiah 53:5 (NET)
He knows how it feels to be wounded and even carried His wounds into eternity, because they are a badge of honor that reminds us and Him of His beautiful redemption and victory over death!
4. Allow Christ to bring healing to your wounds.
This means coming to Him with your brokenness like a child bringing a broken toy to his/her daddy. Lay your broken heart at His feet and let Him comfort and care for you. Then don’t grab your brokenness back. Instead, each day and every moment that you struggle, remind yourself, …
Don’t forget … once you surrender your wounds to Christ, He will transform them into a badge of honor for you as well. #beautifulredemption
What wound or human frailty have you struggled to accept in yourself?
What would wearing your wounds as a “badge of honor” look like in your life?
FYI – Next week, I plan to provide a tool that you can use with your mate to increase empathy and connection. You won’t want to miss that important and final post in our wounds of the past series!
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