My life right now is as fast and busy as ever, being overloaded with a responsibility or two that I probably shouldn’t have taken on! I’m in desperate need of slowing my pace. How about you? 😉
Unfortunately, I’ve always had this tendency. In the South they have a saying about a gal like me . . . She’s wound up tighter than a girdle on a Baptist minister’s wife at an all-you-can-eat pancake breakfast! 😉
Even though I have too hectic of a pace, I’ve learned how to consistently slow myself during my day and do what the psalmist urges us all to do, or more accurately, to be daily . . .
“Be still, and know that I am God . . .” Psalm 46:10a
So in this series, “Slow, Know and Grow,” I want to talk about the next, very vital step we need to take as believers if we hope to bring peace, perspective, perseverance and purpose to our lives, and in particular to our marriages—slowing ourselves.
First, let’s take a deeper look at the phrase, “be still.” Interestingly, the New American Standard Version says we should “cease striving” instead of the oft-quoted “be still.” I think that really captures the essence of what we should quit if we ever hope to be still.
We need to quit striving or relying on our own strength and efforts to resolve the conflicts and challenges in our lives and marriages.
Aren’t you tired of trying to fix or heal your marriage on your own?
I’m here to say, quit trying to lift and carry what is too heavy for your shoulders, my friend!
Secondly, there’s a flipside to this important phrase. If I’m choosing to quit my self-efforts, then how am I ever going to get anything resolved?
It’s only through God! (As my oldest son says, “Boom!”)
Years ago when I was in the hot messes of the messy marriage years, I learned to pull away and sit in the Lord’s presence. I often did this soon after a conflict, when I really felt the need for His comfort and perspective. But over time, this dedicated time to “be still” before the Lord transformed into so much more than what He could do for me.
This one sacred habit has been nothing short of transformational in my life and marriage.
But, fair warning, it didn’t happen overnight. 😉
There are a lot hurting spouses out there who expect the pain and problems to be fixed . . . um . . . yesterday!
Slowing our hearts so we can know God more deeply inherently involves the slowness of waiting on God.
Also remember that we can “be still” till the cows come home and only find ourselves frustrated at the end of that effort. (Notice the last word in that sentence?)
Being still doesn’t just involve silence and stillness before God. It comes with a heart that wants to “Know Him” more deeply in our pain.
I’m no gardener. But I DO know that whenever you plant a garden or hope to cultivate a lush green lawn, you must break up the hardened soil so that the plant’s roots can go down deep. This also allows for the necessary nutrients to flow through those “broken passageways” to the thirsty roots below.
That’s a perfect picture of what God can do in and through you when you slow and still yourself to know Him. Because it’s in your stillness, brokenness and surrender that His Spirit can penetrate the thirsty roots of your heart to revive your dry and lifeless marriage.
I hope you’ll join me next week as I continue in this series, “Slow, Know and Grow“—offering you the steps I’ve taken that have brought healing to my heart and marriage.
What have you tried to shoulder and carry on your own in your marriage or in life?
What have you come to “know” about the Lord through times of being still at His feet?
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