How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong – Book Review and Contest!

If there ever was a book or book title that summed up what most messy marriages struggle with, How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, by Leslie Vernick would be it! I know from first hand experience that it’s a huge struggle to continue to choose the right behavior and attitude when your spouse doesn’t.

In Vernick’s book, she offers advice and insight that empowers the reader and turns the usual perspective on its head. She begins with making a case for why it’s beneficial to act right with a sometimes wrong spouse. She also gives several other step by step strategies for:
  • How to respond rather than react
  • How to guard your heart against negative forces
  • How to center your heart on God
  • How to make positive choices that result in empowerment
  • How certain “Gifts of Love” can transform your marriage
The chapter that I really appreciated was the one I just mentioned – “Gifts of Love.” She helped me to see that very often there are ways to give to a difficult spouse that seem counter-intuitive, yet yield the desired result. I’ve adjusted my perspective and actions since reading this book (and this chapter in particular) and have already seen improvements in my relationship and my attitude—leaving my marriage a little less messy! Yay! So, all that to say . . .

I give How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong a solid “A”rating.
I have a free copy of this book that I will be giving to one person* selected from random who comments/answers in this post the question: “What topic or problem would you like to hear addressed in a future post from messymarriage.com?”
The contest winner will be chosen on Friday, February 25th at 9 p.m., so be sure to get your comment in before the deadline. (Only one comment or entry is allowed per person) 

*If you would like to remain anonymous and yet enter the contest, choose a pseudonym for public use. When I announce the winner on Friday and if you are the winner, I will need your identity emailed to me through my contact email tab.

  • I think my husband needs this book more than I do. He needs support in putting up with my pouting.

  • Well, what topic would you like to be addressed? I can’t “officially” count your comment as an entry without it! But thanks for commenting–you know how I love comments!

  • I would like to some suggestions on how to get the spark back into a marriage so that we relate to each other MORE like lovebirds and LESS like spouses…..

  • Great idea, Stacey! I guess I should do some research for that topic! 😉

  • I had trouble logging on with my url this last time. I hope none of the rest of you are having trouble posting a comment. Sorry, if you are!

  • Andrea

    I would like some new and different suggestions on how to be intimate w/ your spouse w/out being “intimate”. J Like the post above, “put some spark back in the marriage.” I was just reading another blog about having that “falling out of love feeling” w/ your spouse. This seems to happen to so many people, and apparently a normal low in marriage. But what are some suggestions for getting that “loving feeling” back. I think so often we forget how to spend time w/ our spouse or at least don’t make it a priority.

    Thanks, Andrea

  • Captain

    I would like to answer your question about what I would like to see you address in a future post.

    The biblical role of the husband in making decisions within the context of the marital relationship.

  • Andrea, I will certainly address your issue. It is a common problem that couples have and warrants a deeper look.

    Captain, thanks for bringing up another important issue that is often confusing and complicated for Christian couples. I will do my best to address this issue in future posts.

    Also, both of you are now entered in the contest, so please check back on Saturday morning to see who has won.

  • Captain

    I would like to answer your question about what I would like to see you address in a future post.

    The biblical role of the husband in making decisions within the context of the marital relationship.

  • Well, what topic would you like to be addressed? I can’t “officially” count your comment as an entry without it! But thanks for commenting–you know how I love comments!