How to Connect with God Daily And Linkup

With all the knowledge I’ve gleaned and used over the years as a marriage counselor and life-coach, none of that really made as big of a difference in my marriage as connecting daily with God. But the biggest challenge for most people seems to be establishing that sacred habit.

So today I will be sharing some biblical insights and practical ways to light that fire in your life.

God Time

Two biblical insights that are key . . .

1. We must have a new heart through a saving relationship with God or you won’t desire to study God’s word.

“The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.” ~1 Corinthians 2:14

Click on my “Know God” page to know more about this all-important decision.

2. We must look for and desire God with our whole hearts.

“If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.” ~Jeremiah 29:13

I believe God works to increase our desire in two important ways . . .

  • We desire God more fervently when we know trouble is coming.
    Sometimes you’re simply proactive and wise enough to know you need God’s word to prevent or deal with the dangers and challenges of life and marriage before they wreck your life.
  • We desire God most when trouble has already hit.
    For me, my marriage messes and the challenges of life were what God used the most to reveal my need for Him and His truths. So sometimes it’s simply a matter of being in desperate need of the Lord before You actually seek Him with a whole heart.

So, how do you establish this sacred habit?

Here are 6 tips . . .

1. Ask God to give you the tenacity to create this habit in your life.

That’s a prayer that He WILL answer. No doubt about it, my friends! 😉

2. Determine the best time of day/night and put it on your calendar.

You might go so far as to set an alarm or to ask someone to hold you accountable in some way, especially in the early stages.

3. Be realistic about what you plan to accomplish each day.

If you’re in the sleep-deprived and diaper phase of life, then try to read a 5 minute devotional or one Scripture verse or passage daily. Just try to reflect on it all throughout your day so that it soaks into your parched and weary soul.

When you have more available time in your day, don’t bite off more than you’re used to chewing. Slowly increase as you go along, so that you avoid getting discouraged. And if you “fall off the wagon,” get back up quickly without beating yourself up over it!

Remember this is about establishing a “rhythm” in your day and not an “obligation,” so it should feel more like a dance than a drudgery. #dancewithGod

4. Make it your goal to have your “God time” at the same time each day for at least 21 consecutive days.

It takes a minimum of 21 days to get a habit going. Really 40 days or more is recommended. But you could add those extra days to your original goal, once you’ve made it to day 21.

And it’s the consistency of the same time each day that helps you to remember to make it happen. If having it at the same time each day doesn’t work for your schedule, then be sure to use that calendaring trick I mentioned above under #2.

5. Find the best spot to have your time with God.

It should be free of distraction and comfortable. You should also have handy all the needed “tools” for your time of study.

6. Set the mood and atmosphere.

I love to listen to instrumental music while I study God’s word. It really aids me in my time of worship and study. Also, I increase my enthusiasm to “taste and see that the Lord is good” by having my tasty cup of coffee in hand as well. 😉 These positive details really do help to reinforce my habit. (My Bible study habit, that is!)

Next week I’ll be sharing how to deal with the hurdles that inevitably occur when you start this important and sacred habit.

 

What biblical insight would you add about igniting the desire to know God through His word?

 

What tips would you add for establishing this sacred habit in your day and life?

 

By the way, I’m experiencing a really busy season and am trying to get to all the blogs of those who comment, but haven’t been able to keep up with that goal as much as I would like lately. But please know that I really value every blogger who links up and every person who comments. You all matter immensely to me! 🙂 I also would love to have your prayers for my busy season as well. Thanks so much!


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  • Mary

    Great tips! As much as I think I have developed this habit it only takes one busy week to set me off course. Praying for God to help me in developing the habit is so key. There is nothing that He can’t do and He needs to hear my desire to know Him more.

    I will be praying for you in this busy season. Please let me know if there is anything specific I can be praying for. Your words and encouragement always bless me. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend.

    • Yes, it’s so hard when we experience a disruption to our schedule, Mary. And if you have a job that is constantly changing week-to-week, it can be even harder. And Amen to God doing anything in us that we ask Him to! Thank you for your prayers on my behalf, sweet friend. Just let me put it this way – there’s just a lot of change going on around here and I’m having a hard time keeping up! Thanks for your concern and friendship!

  • pioneerpat1

    Looking forward to learning more. I get off course so much that it takes a while to get back going.

    • Thanks, Patrick! I hope it is as helpful to you as it has been for me. A true life and marriage changer!

  • Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Great thoughts here, Beth! Like mary, I will be praying for you, and would welcome any specific ‘direction’ you may want to share.

    One suggestion I would add is to read Scripture in a non-traditionally-Christian language, such as Farsi or Urdu (or listen, if you have the ear). It’s so easy to stereotype God’s Word, because we’ve heard it often – but to read or hear it in the tongue of a different culture is to add depth and perspective.

    http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/03/your-dying-spouse-281-gods-glory-in.html

    • Thank you for your prayers and just pray for me to hold up under some difficult changes and challenges that have occurred lately. I’m not sure if you’re talking about a different translation, or language, Andrew. But if you’re talking about different translations, I agree! It really helps to pull things out that we often miss. And I’ve been listening to a book I have on Kindle lately that I’ve read before. I find it very interesting to “listen” instead of read, because I’m picking up things I didn’t before. Great suggestion, my friend and I hope you are feeling God’s comfort every day.

  • Dear Beth, Good tips. You know I love your Know God page! I think this kind of habit grows gradually so it’s important to be kind to yourself, also to make sure it doesn’t become “just another chore”. It’s most important to achieve something (however tiny) every day. I am working through the ideas in “Better than Before” which is all about establishing good habits.

    You are always in my “thank you” prayers. I will pray for God to fill you with energy and grace, to sail through your challenges.

    David

    • ps Is this page is accessible from the front page of your blog? I couldn’t see it (came here direct from twitter).

    • Yes, it blesses me that you’ve found it to be so helpful. And you’re right about the gradualness of this pursuit and habit. We really have to guard against it ever falling into the category of chore. So, yes, “tiny” is key. I’ve read about your insights related to that book and it sounds like a great read.

      Thank you for “thanking God” for me. It is my honor to, in a sense, hold your hand as we grow together in our faith walk. And I also greatly appreciate the prayers for energy, but also pray for my discipline to stay on track. I feel a bit scattered lately.

  • Susan

    And, be ready with the sword…because the devil will begin the onslaught! When you sit down for this personal worship time – the scoundrel will bring every distraction possible before you. Know this and prepare for it!!! xo

    • Susan

      PS: no need to drive over to my house – please. I love your visits but understand how difficult that is. And, Beth, I know you know this? But, just keep doing the next thing. One at a time. Ya hear? 😉

      • I do as much as I can in allotted time on Wednesday’s, so if I have time, I LIKE to visit your place. But I truly appreciate you extending grace to me in this, my friend!

    • Oh yes, Susan! We must remember that it is a sword and that Satan wants to attack when he sees us using it. Great thought to add to the conversation, my friend!

  • Hi Beth! No matter how long I’ve walked with God, this admonition to connect with Him daily in quiet time NEVER gets old. I always need it this reminder, so thank you for this post. I love ALL your tips. After struggling for years to develop a routine, I finally settled on mornings when the house is super quiet. It works on most days. (Lol!) I’ve also figured out which devotional method works for me, too. Now, I just have to keep doing it!:-)

    Thanks for sharing and hosting!
    Tififney

    • I’m the same, Tiffiney! I need those reminders constantly. And thank you for your kind words. They encourage me. I’m so glad to hear you have a set routine now. And I agree, finding a quiet time in your day really helps with our “quiet times.” Lol!

  • That all important vertical relationship is so key to having a strong marriage. No human can meet all our needs, and it’s just too much pressure on the relationship if the spiritual component is not being met somewhere.

    • Yes! Exactly what I’m trying to say and where I’m continuing to go, Michele. Thanks for validating the underlying truth of this discipline in our lives, my friend!

  • Mary Flaherty

    A rhythm, not an obligation. That’s good.

    • Thanks, Mary! Great to see you in the line up and with a smashing-good post to boot! 😉

  • #6 Mood and atmosphere…I crave tranquility. It has to be quiet since it’s basically nonstop noise all day long after the kiddos wake up. After that is when I put on the worship music. Right now I’m trying to build the habit of having a family worship time after breakfast.

    • I crave it too, Kelly. I was just talking about that with my small group ladies yesterday. I don’t know how people go about their day without this time carved out for solitude with the One who loves us so. And Amen to the worship music! Another great way to keep our minds on Christ and His hope!

  • Beth, I’d say the better you know God the more you want to know Him. Your taste and desire grows for spiritual nourishment. It can be dulled by filling yourself with other things too. It helps me to know what I’m going to be doing. When I’m in a study or book of the Bible I don’t spend time wondering what to do but look forward to the next day.

    • Love that, Debbie! It’s so true. That’s exactly why I LOVE my quiet times … because I have gotten to know my Savior and His heart through my study of the Scriptures. So many people don’t really know Him deeply, therefore they wander a bit in this pursuit. Also, appreciate your added insights as to making this more of a habit. Thanks for adding to the discussion, my friend!

  • You pretty much covered it Beth. And I like the Rhythm not Obligation phrase, it is so important that you create this habit as a love date not duty.
    I would also recommend journalling as we spend time with God and His word, it helps us note what we learned and sometimes when we write, some things stick. After a while when we go through our journal we will be blessed and refreshed by the notes we took.
    This is a very helpful topic; if we must make the best of our marriages then connection with God is too important to ignore.
    Thanks for this one again Beth, do have a super blessed rest of week!
    Love

    • Yes, “love date, not duty” is great as well, Ugochi. It really feels like that for me, but it didn’t always. And I agree. Journaling is so very important. I’ll be getting to a bit of that later in this series, but I’m right there with you on the need for it. Thanks for joining the conversation, sweet friend! Always love having you in the linkup too!

  • JosephPote

    Good post, Beth!

    I am reminded of the post I read on Lisa Notes yesterday, where Lisa talked about love being best expressed thru the little things in life. http://www.lisanotes.com/gods-math-of-little-things/

    I have found this to be true of every relationship. Whether we’re talking about a friend, a child, or a spouse, it is the accumulation of little acts of kindness consistently shown that build the relationship.
    I’ve found the same is true even of horses…the most important part of horsemanship is consistency in little things over a period of time.
    And, yes, it has definitely worked that way in my relationship with God. It is in the daily little things…the spending time…the learning to listen…the learning to respond…that we come to really love and trust Him.
    Thanks you for another great post! Have a blessed day, my friend!

    • I’ll have to check out Lisa’s post, Joe. And yes, you make a good point. It’s the accumulation of small acts of kindness or obedience that makes a huge difference in the long run. Thanks for your encouragement and love to see you in the linkup!

  • Love this. When I have a specific place set to meet with God each morning, I’m more likely to sit down and spend time with Him. These are great tips!
    Happy Wednesday!

    • Yes, me too, Meg. I have a little spot and when I have to go somewhere else, it drives me crazy! Ha! I just can’t quite feel as comfortable in any other corner as my usual spot with the Lord. Can you say, “creature of habit”? ha! Thanks for joining the conversation, my friend!

  • Laura Longville

    One thing that I am trying is asking God to join me in my special place and time. I have the imagery that I am hosting God. Then I wait on Him to guide and direct my time. Sometimes He directs me to a specific scripture, others times it’s a quiet being with one another.

    • I do that too, Laura, and it’s so very healing and comforting. The fact is, we are hosting God every time we enter “His gates with thanksgiving” or pray a prayer. I wish more people would realize and integrate that truth. Thanks for adding that to the conversation, my friend and it’s nice to meet you!

      • Laura Longville

        Nice to meet you too!

  • Anticipating the time together and seeing time spent with God as positive. I always come away with something learned or to ponder or think about.

  • Karen

    I never really understood the impact of a special prayer place until I actually made one. I wouldn’t say mine is comfortable, but it is separate. In our basement, in a corner, with nothing but a mat, bible, notepad and lamp. It has become Holy Ground to me and I look forward to meeting the Lord there every time.

  • Julie Loos

    Great tips Beth! For me through habit, I need it every day. I physically need to spend time for God in order to feel my best. I really miss it and notice it when I can’t get time with God.
    #CoffeeforYourHeart

  • Arian Beauty

    Instrumental music… I like that – I think I’m going to add that to my morning devotional routine. Thanks Beth!

  • Brandi Raae

    Thanks for sharing at Literacy Musing Mondays! I love Bible study at the same time everyday, but it has been more of a challenge since my kids have gotten older and schedules have changed. When they were all little, they had to have an hour of quiet time in their rooms every single day. That’s when I’d sit and do my Bible study. I’m doing a wonderful Philippians study at church right now, so that’s keeping me focused. 🙂

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