I’m a Perfect Mess

Do you remember when Kermit the frog sang, “It’s Not Easy Being Green” in one of those old Muppet Movies? Well, let me just say, I feel the same way, only my song says, it’s not easy being messy! This is especially true when you’re a pastor’s wife and a marriage and family counselor, for […]

Spark #3 – Plan a Special Date

Just last week someone who read Wednesday’s post, “Romantic Nonsense” said to me, “I know you don’t like all that romantic stuff.” So I’m feeling the need to set the record straight . . . I am not against being romantic—I simply am against romantic nonsense! Romantic nonsense is finding your sense of worth from […]

Romantic Nonsense

A few months ago I ran across some of my old journals from the early days in my marriage. As I scanned over the many pages, I found a statement that reflected something of a watershed moment in my young marriage. I wrote . . .   “I thought love was supposed to be easy—to […]

Caught in the Perfect Storm

Messes in marriage are very often like storms . . .  Let’s say that I’m feeling physically drained, but have a very long list of things I need to get done on a certain day. I may not have done anything “wrong” per se, but all the right ingredients are present to form a “cloud” […]

Making a Bigger, Better Mess

Today I’m linking up with Faith Barista.   Bonnie Gray posed the question to fellow bloggers: “What is something new God is asking you to step out in?” At first, I hesitated to write what first came to my mind. In fact, the question seemed rather ironic to me because just this week I am […]

Are You in the Middle of the Story?

I just love a good mystery. As a kid, I certainly watched my share of Scooby Doo and his Mystery Machine. As an adult, I’m drawn to those forensic shows that solve some cold case mystery with a dozen or so bits of DNA. I also love searching for clues to my genealogy, because it […]

My Messy Motherhood

Me with my boys when they were 8, 5 and 2 In honor of Mother’s Day, I wanted to spend a little time sharing a messy motherhood confession or two. It’s sad but true, I’ve not only been involved in some messy marriage moments, but I’ve also made some huge motherhood messes as well.    […]

Messy Motherhood?

In honor of Mother’s Day, I wanted to give equal time to another aspect of messy marriage—messy moms and dads. Believe it or not, it’s true—very often in messy marriages you’ll also find messy parents. And I’m not talking about the times when your husband leaves his underwear hanging on the headboard. I’m talking about […]

Taking a Sacred Marital Pause?

I’ve often heard the old saying, “the family that prays together stays together” and I’ve always believed that to be true. But my hubs, Gary, and I have found it to be something of a hard habit to keep in place within our marriage. Sure, as a family we always pray before we chow down. […]

Are You Fighting with a Ghost?

Recently, I’ve done some soul searching. Very often when my husband, Gary, and I disagree, it reminds me of the conflicts that my parents too often had when I was a child. And my first reaction to him in those times is to “table the conversation.” But recently I’m beginning to recognize that I’ve been […]