Have You Really Forgiven Someone?

I often hear people say, “Oh, I forgave him/her.” But sometimes I doubt the truth or reality of their words. It’s not that I don’t think they’re being sincere. It’s just that I think many people believe that forgiveness is simply a decision and nothing more.  Here’s why I think there’s more forgiveness work to […]

Spark #2 Chemistry

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”   —Psalm 139:14 (NIV) I’ve never been great at science. I muddled my way through high school biology and never even took H.S. chemistry because it wasn’t required for college at the time. But even though […]

3 Steps to Breaking a Vicious Cycle

Have you ever been in a vicious cycle?  I certainly have! Let’s say that you were betrayed by a past relationship. That person lied to you time after time and finally cheated on you. You learned from that experience to be suspicious, even cynical about new and existing relationships. In carrying that cynicism with you […]

The Biblical Role of Headship in Marriage

I was asked to address this issue and feel as if I cannot adequately address this subject without including my husband in the dialogue as well. So this post features my sometimes “post-er,” always pastor and husband, Gary. Beth’s point of view When Gary and I have to make a decision that we cannot come […]

3 Steps to Take When You Find Your Spouse Looking at Porn

I want to respond to a recent comment given regarding the use of porn. I will be addressing it from the perspective of a wife who has caught her husband looking at porn.  First of all, this is such a complex issue that I feel I cannot fully address it in any depth on a […]

Marriage Mistake #9 – Forgive My Spouse Only If It Feels Right

You know the old saying, “To err is human and to forgive divine?” Well, that’s certainly been a truth that was lost on me for many years. In fact, I fell more into the “Oprah Camp” that said, “Listen to your heart or feelings.” But when I did this early on in my marriage, it […]

Opposites Repel

Written by – Stacey Micklevitz Wait … WHAT?  No, opposites attract. Right?  Right! . . . At first.  See, Bryan is my opposite in nearly every way. I’m very structured; he’s laid back. I’m a tad high-strung; he’s laid back. I’m very detail-oriented; he’s, well … laid back. Have I mentioned that he is rather […]

Spark #1 Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

In response to two recent comments, I want to address practical and/or romantic ways you can add a “spark” to your marriage. Since there are so many things that can reignite that spark, and since it often takes multiple efforts over time to rejuvenate a relationship, I don’t want to overwhelm you with a long […]

One Element that Brings Balance in Marriage

Messes happen in marriage very often because life gets out of balance. And one of the primary ways that couples, especially young couples, find life getting out of balance is in the area of time. There’s so much demanded of parents with young and growing children. And we feel as if we’re cheating our kids […]

When the Crisis Comes

You’re running late—as usual. You buckle the kids in their car seats and race off to do a long list of errands. The first errand on your list is a dentist appointment for your youngest. You glance at the clock on the dashboard and realize you’re further behind than you thought. So you decide to […]