Are You Fencing out Your Spouse?

(The following post is only true for those who do not have abusive marriages.) My husband is a huge football fan. And since I’m not, I’ve learned to find other activities at this time of year, so that he’s free to cuddle up with his remote and zero in on the end zone.  Even though […]

He Came to Get Messy

Sometimes we forget what a sacrifice Jesus made in coming to earth as a human, experiencing all the messiness of life. But I’m so grateful that he didn’t leave us in our messes. Take a look at this video and be reminded of how the God of the Universe can relate to you and me. […]

Do You Have a Messy Marriage?

My boys have always had a way of ignoring messes. They can live in their messy rooms for months and not be bothered by the piles of stuff that must be navigated like an obstacle course or a mine field in order to get to the other side. If you asked them, “Do you think […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

By Stacey Micklevitz One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic, which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the way to our […]

Blessings in the Messes

Here’s a true confession: Coming clean about having a messy marriage was and is, at times, scary. But lately I’ve been realizing that having had a messy marriage is a blessing. Let me explain. Back when I was young and unmarried, I had this romanticized idea about love and marriage. I felt like there had […]

Four Emotions that Heat Up Conflict

Have you ever tried to take a hot cake out of the oven without potholders? That would be crazy, right? You’d probably not only drop the cake and ruin it, but you’d also burn your hands in the process. However, if you waited until the cake cooled down, it wouldn’t be a problem to handle […]

Marriage Policy – Never Compete with Your Spouse

My husband and I have certain marriage policies that we keep in place in order to protect and enhance our marriage. One of those policies is to never compete with each other. Unfortunately, this wasn’t always the case. In fact, one of our first “competitions” took place while we were in college. We held a […]

Are You Accepting or Tolerating Your Spouse?

There’s a catch-22 in my life. I want to be patient and tolerant of my husband. Sounds all well and good, right? But if you think about it, the word “tolerant” tells you a little bit about where I’m going with this post. I’m sure my husband doesn’t really want to be “tolerated”—no matter how […]

Unfinished Business

When my husband and I packed up our bags for our honeymoon, we didn’t know we were bringing along a few invisible, but very toxic bags from our past. And I had the dubious distinction of having not only “mother issues,” but also “father issues” when we got married. So my husband was saddled with […]