Drive-Thru Marriage

By Stacey Micklevitz One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic, which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the […]

Drive-Thru Marriage

One evening, not too long ago, my husband Bryan and I were on our way to our Small Group Bible Study.  Because Bryan had been caught in traffic which made him arrive home late from work, we had decided to pick up fast food and eat it in the car on the way to our […]

Blessings in the Messes

Here’s a true confession: Coming clean about having a messy marriage was and is, at times, scary. But lately I’ve been realizing that having had a messy marriage is a blessing. Let me explain. Back when I was young and unmarried, I had this romanticized idea about love and marriage. I felt like there had […]

Four Emotions that Heat Up Conflict

Have you ever tried to take a hot cake out of the oven without potholders? That would be crazy, right? You’d probably not only drop the cake and ruin it, but you’d also burn your hands in the process. However, if you waited until the cake cooled down, it wouldn’t be a problem to handle […]

Marriage Policy – Never Compete with Your Spouse

My husband and I have certain marriage policies that we keep in place in order to protect and enhance our marriage. One of those policies is to never compete with each other. Unfortunately, this wasn’t always the case. In fact, one of our first “competitions” took place while we were in college. We held a […]

Are You Accepting or Tolerating Your Spouse?

There’s a catch-22 in my life. I want to be patient and tolerant of my husband. Sounds all well and good, right? But if you think about it, the word “tolerant” tells you a little bit about where I’m going with this post. I’m sure my husband doesn’t really want to be “tolerated”—no matter how […]

Unfinished Business

When my husband and I packed up our bags for our honeymoon, we didn’t know we were bringing along a few invisible, but very toxic bags from our past. And I had the dubious distinction of having not only “mother issues,” but also “father issues” when we got married. So my husband was saddled with […]

What You Can Expect after Forgiving Your Spouse

If you’ve fully released the hurts and grievances that you have against your spouse to God (as mentioned in my previous post – 3 Steps to Release Yourself from Resentment), then I can promise that you will feel better. That’s because I’ve gone through the forgiveness process many, many times with a myriad of people […]

3 Steps to Release Yourself from Resentment

There’s a new Disney movie coming out called, “Tangled.” It’s based on the story of Rapunzel who was exiled to a high tower where no one could rescue her except a persistent and resourceful prince.  I feel like many times when we find ourselves in a messy marriage we become very much like Rapunzel. However, […]

Confessions of a Messy Mate

Welcome friends! Today I am launching my Messy Marriage blog! And I feel like the best way to start this blog off is to: Revisit the day I woke up to the reality of my messy attitude.  It started with a typical day for me. I was with my husband throwing complaints around the room […]