I mentioned during week one of the “Triple C” challenge that I wanted to gradually make each week in this challenge a bit more vulnerable—pushing you ever-so-slightly out of your comfort zone. So far I believe I’ve kept the challenges fairly safe and mild. But this week it’s time to ramp it up a tad. 😉
One of the things I’ve noticed over my 28 years of marriage is that …
My husband and I are the type of people who are not satisfied with mediocre, and especially not with a bad relationship. We are willing to challenge the status-quo, trying new and perhaps better ways of handling situations that arise in our marriage constantly.
I think that is one of the main reasons why we’ve been able to remain and be “less-messy” than those “very messy” years of marriage.
I know for some of you, your marriage has been in such a long downward spiral that you can’t imagine things ever changing for the better. And you may be the only one in the relationship who is stepping out of your comfort zone, which makes it seem all the more daunting and hopeless.
Certainly the fact that both my husband and I were willing to step out of our comfort zones made it easier and quicker to get to a better place. But that doesn’t mean you can’t get your marriage to a better place too! It just means it may take you longer and the climb may be harder and more painful.
That’s where and when your relationship with God will need to be Your comfort and source of strength.
And never forget that with “God in and through you” …
That’s not so hard to accomplish really.
Now! On to the task of being a better spouse one day at a time …
Write your spouse a love letter—telling him one physical characteristic you find attractive and why, one character quality you admire, one personality characteristic you envy, and one accomplishment you are proud of in him. Then leave it under his pillow for a pleasant surprise at bedtime.
Make sure to wear something your husband likes. Also make sure you do your hair and makeup in a way that would impress him or catch his eye today.
Ask your husband how he feels about a problem (doesn’t have to be about you or your marriage) that he’s experienced lately. Then validate what he feels by saying something like, “I can understand why you would feel that way. That must be so difficult. How can I help?” For more on this read my post, How to Validate Your Spouse’s Feelings.
Make your husband’s favorite meal and light some candles for ambiance while you eat.
Work on giving your husband good eye contact today. Read Jill Savage’s stellar post here on why that is a lost art for many couples.
Let your husband have the remote control all to himself for one evening, then watch with him all of his favorite television programs.
Plan a special activity like going on a picnic or taking a walk at sunset with your man. Then prepare your bedroom and your heart for a sizzling “coming home party” for the two of you that evening between the sheets! (If sex is too difficult for you, show your husband affection in some way by initiating a cuddle, kiss or hug.)
*Click here for the Week 3 printable.
What are some creative ideas you’ve used to connect with your spouse that could be added to the list this week?
What says “I love you” to your spouse more than anything else?
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