Share Your Story Here!

Here at Messy Marriage our team tries to address all sorts of messy issues in marriage, but— believe it or not—we can’t experience ALL the problems that this world can throw at us. However, “collectively” our team has experienced quite a few! 🙂

My desire has always been for this to be a place where everyone who visits can relate to the issues that others are facing or find support by learning and receiving a truth or perspective that is needed. So I’m here to make a request of you, my Messy Marriage audience …

Would you consider sharing your story with us?

We are looking for people who are willing to either openly or anonymously share about one particular messy moment in your marriage.

This moment doesn’t have to be currently “figured out” or have some kind of moral or lesson that’s included in the story. It can simply be an illustration of how messy marriage can be at times. Of course, it can also come from the perspective of, “Here’s what I learned through that experience.” Either way works.

The most important thing is that it does not come from a victim mentalitywhere you are simply airing some gripe you have about your mate. Come from an angle of redemption, revealing what you need to take responsibility for to make this mess better or to trust God more. 

If you are interested in sharing your story, please contact me (Beth). You can find my email address on the contact page. Please realize that I reserve the right to determine whether your story is appropriate for this blog. And if it needs editing or trimming (since we try to keep our posts to 600 word count or less), I may be working with you on that as well.

Consider this an opportunity to minister to others. God is the Great Redeemer, so perhaps he wants to redeem your story by helping someone else who’s going through the same or similar situation.

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  • i think the sharing of these stories is a good thing…we are not all that much different and whether we acknowledge it or not we go through these moments…and as we share we learn we are not alone and how others walked through it…

  • this is valuable. wendell berry speaks of a community aspect to marriage that we’ve completely lost. i wonder if there’d be so much divorce if we invited more community wisdom and prayer into our marriages.

  • messymarriage

    Thanks, Brian! I think so too. I really want this to be a place where people can feel supported and no longer alone in their “marriage messiness.”

  • messymarriage

    I’ll have to check Wendell Berry’s thoughts on the community aspect. I like that line of thought. It really can feel like a very alienating thing to be in a messy marriage. But so many people are struggling silently, not knowing that there are so many others who struggle. I hope this brings awareness to this common problem. Thanks, Suzannah, for stopping by and encouraging me!

  • Emily Wierenga

    i love that you are inviting others to share their journeys. we are way too silent on the marriage-front… we need to speak out about our flaws and our failures, because only then can God work. that’s why i love this beautiful place of yours, dear beth. e.

    • Thanks so much, Emily! Your encouragement means a lot to me!

      And yes, we need to be more open so that, like you said, God can work, and “we”–as messy humans–can remove the shame and sense of alienation many feel about their messy moments and marriages. Hugs to you!

    • Thanks so much, Emily! Your encouragement means a lot to me!

      And yes, we need to be more open so that, like you said, God can work, and “we”–as messy humans–can remove the shame and sense of alienation many feel about their messy moments and marriages. Hugs to you!

    • Thanks so much, Emily! Your encouragement means a lot to me!

      And yes, we need to be more open so that, like you said, God can work, and “we”–as messy humans–can remove the shame and sense of alienation many feel about their messy moments and marriages. Hugs to you!

  • Cindy

    I want to thank you for this place! I frequently refer about “this mystery of a man I am married to” as a way to help clients realize that this marriage, this person, is in as much of a state of growth as you! The growth of all three aspects of a marriage can be viewed as a challenge or an adventure…I prefer the adventure and mystery aspect! I have such a fresh, I hope sweet, funny story to share with you that highlights God’s hand in a problem situation, if only we have PATIENCE! And that is patience according to God’s definition! It will be way more than 600 words…I have been thinking about writing it ever since God’s hand has been evident, but just haven’t taken the time…but now I am inspired to actually get it written…thanks you for showing up to imperfect prose!

  • messymarriage

    I definitely want to make this a place that is safe for people, not only to share their stories, but to feel supported and no longer alone in their struggles as well, Emily. And as always, your support and encouragement means so much to me. Hugs to you!

  • messymarriage

    That’s great, Cindy! I’m excited to hear about it and work with you on this. Please email me so that we can correspond back and forth. Go to my contact page and you’ll find my email address and I’ll be in touch with you soon! Thanks so much for being willing and encouraging me too! 🙂