Spiritual Practices that Save My Marriage

I could go on and on about how to communicate better, or learn to forgive, or make time to really connect with your spouse, but that’s simply icing on the cake. The bedrock of my marriage has not been being the best wife, but being a fully devoted follower of Christ.

With that said, here are some of the spiritual practices that I’ve used over the years to send down deep spiritual roots in Christ, my firm foundation. He’s the One who has helped me and will help you weather the stormiest of marriage years and the messiest of marriage messes.

First of all, if you’re not a believer—one who has given your life to Christ and received God’s gift of salvation through Christ’s work on the cross—then click here to find out more. That’s the first step to building your spiritual foundation.

Second, I make time daily for connecting with God. And here are some of the rituals and practices that keep me engaged and growing …

Highlight Key Verses:
I read through a passage of scripture and highlight verses that are significant.* I prefer using Prismacolor pencils for this because they have a soft core that’s easy to highlight with and won’t bleed through or rub off after marking. You can purchase individual pencils at most craft stores.

Looking for these key verses has become like a treasure hunt to me—really building excitement and anticipation for my next quiet time.

Record Key Verses:
I’ve recently begun to build a database of hundreds of key verses that I organize by topic. Whenever I find a key verse in my reading, I type it out in that database under the right heading—sometimes adding it under several headings. I have over 60 pages of Bible quotes so far and it’s been great for copying and pasting to FB, Twitter or just providing to those in need of a word of encouragement.

Praying by Computer:
Yes, you read that right. I type so much faster than I write. And I used to lose track of my thoughts or even—gasp—fall asleep on my prayers in the past. Now I stay engaged and my prayers flow from my fingertips as well as my heart. I feel like God speaks more clearly to me during these computer prayer sessions. Can’t say exactly why. But I do also appreciate being able to reflect back on what I prayed yesterday, last week or even two years ago! I keep my prayers in an unusually named file, but you can also password protect your prayer file, (if you’re especially skittish about it getting into the wrong hands).

Keep a Daily Thought on Hand:
I literally write mine on the palm of my left hand so that I can be reminded of it throughout my day! My only problem has been that marks made by Sharpie’s don’t last through multiple hand washings. So I’ve found that a laundry marker stays on my hand through many more washes. I also write out my thought on a sticky note and post it where I look regularly and notate it in my prayer file each day as well.

Pray with Friends:
I pray not only with a specific group of friends who are fellow-wives, but I also pray daily for those friends (and more) on my own. And they do so for me as well. This has enriched my spiritual life in more ways than I can count. Be sure to pray only with friends of your gender, so as to avoid any emotional entanglements that might occur naturally in such an intimate setting as praying.

These are just a few of the practices that I do in order to keep my spiritual life strong and growing. I hope that you might benefit from some of the ideas I’ve shared. It should be the first area you tackle if your marriage is messy!

Here are a few extra resources –
Online Bible and commentaries
22 Inspirational Bible Verses 
What Christians Want to Know FB Page

*There are many ways to study the Bible. I’ve just listed one way that I’m enjoying currently. Please tell me about some of the ways you study and build on your spiritual foundation.

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Linking up with NOBH, Imperfect Prose, To Love Honor and Vacuum, and New Life Steward

  • soulstops

    you share such wisdom, Beth, as we need to first center in on our relationship with Jesus, as it from Him, everything else flows (John 15:5)…I write out a verse and stick it somewhere visible…and pray…I desperately need to connect with Him as I know I cannot love well in my own strength…Blessings, my friend 🙂

    • Yes, it’s like being able to breathe each day for me, Dolly. I don’t know how people manage in life or marriage without a daily feeding of the soul. Thanks so much for coming by, my friend!

  • soulstops

    you share such wisdom, Beth, as we need to first center in on our relationship with Jesus, as it from Him, everything else flows (John 15:5)…I write out a verse and stick it somewhere visible…and pray…I desperately need to connect with Him as I know I cannot love well in my own strength…Blessings, my friend 🙂

  • I came over from Mary Beth’s place…what great thoughts. I love tracking the verses in a database. I have mine on index cards and they are not organized…I’m going to start trying this. And the praying by computer…I SO get that.

    • I’m glad you found some of my practices helpful, Mary. I think there are so many ways to leverage our electronics for the betterment of the Kingdom and our own spiritual growth. I really appreciate you coming by and encouraging me, friend!

  • I came over from Mary Beth’s place…what great thoughts. I love tracking the verses in a database. I have mine on index cards and they are not organized…I’m going to start trying this. And the praying by computer…I SO get that.

  • I love “record key verses” Sounds awesome.

    • Yes, and it’s helping me to remember better what those key verses are and where as well. It’s a win-win all the way around, Ngina! Thanks so much for coming by!

  • I love “record key verses” Sounds awesome.

  • Sylv_R

    ” The bedrock of my marriage has not been being the best wife, but being a fully devoted follower of Christ. ”
    Boy, does this resonate with me. Last year I asked my husband how I could be a better wife. (Dangerous question. Not recommended! But I did it…) He answered, “You are a better wife.” Huh? How so, I wanted to know. He said, well, just my attitudes, my demeanor.
    I had not been trying to be a better wife. I had been living and walking more devotedly with Christ! So that ends up taking care of the most important aspects of being a better… anything.
    Great post! Good ways to grow in devotion!
    (This comment was going to be a post of my own someday. Now I’ve already said it, so I don’t know. But what you say is so true!)
    Sylvia R @sylvrpen.com

    • What a great testimony of your faithfulness to God … that even your spouse sees Christ in you. Wow, just beautiful, Sylvia! And I think you should still write that post. There are so many people in the cyberworld that I cannot reach, but that you will. You go, girl! And thanks so much for coming by and encouraging me!

  • Sylv_R

    ” The bedrock of my marriage has not been being the best wife, but being a fully devoted follower of Christ. “
    Boy, does this resonate with me. Last year I asked my husband how I could be a better wife. (Dangerous question. Not recommended! But I did it…) He answered, “You are a better wife.” Huh? How so, I wanted to know. He said, well, just my attitudes, my demeanor.
    I had not been trying to be a better wife. I had been living and walking more devotedly with Christ! So that ends up taking care of the most important aspects of being a better… anything.
    Great post! Good ways to grow in devotion!
    (This comment was going to be a post of my own someday. Now I’ve already said it, so I don’t know. But what you say is so true!)
    Sylvia R @sylvrpen.com

  • Colleen Thompson

    Thanks again for checking out my Monday Morning Bragging Wife post. Told you I’d come see what you could remind me of. 😉

    I especially love your idea of praying by computer and having a thought on hand.

    Praying by computer is a great idea for me because I’ve often said that my best thoughts don’t come out my mouth, they come out my fingers. I am hopeless at giving dictation!

    And the thought on hand is just an awesome way to have it in front of me all day until it is needed or it goes in for future use.

    I’m so glad you found me. 😀

    • It sounds like we are like-minded, Colleen. In fact, many might not like the idea of writing something on their hands but I figure if Christ wears a scar on his hands for me, I can wear a Bible thought for Him! Thanks so much for your kind words and for weighing in, my friend!

  • Colleen Thompson

    Thanks again for checking out my Monday Morning Bragging Wife post. Told you I’d come see what you could remind me of. 😉

    I especially love your idea of praying by computer and having a thought on hand.

    Praying by computer is a great idea for me because I’ve often said that my best thoughts don’t come out my mouth, they come out my fingers. I am hopeless at giving dictation!

    And the thought on hand is just an awesome way to have it in front of me all day until it is needed or it goes in for future use.

    I’m so glad you found me. 😀

  • Megan@DoNotDisturb

    I agree completely that the foundation of marital success is a growing relationship with Christ. Thanks for your great reminders list.

    • Yes, sometimes I get so caught up in all the other marital tools that I forget the “toolbox” that should hold them all together … “in perfect unity!” Thanks so much for coming by, Megan! I appreciate it!

  • Megan@DoNotDisturb

    I agree completely that the foundation of marital success is a growing relationship with Christ. Thanks for your great reminders list.

  • Nicole Nolley

    awesome and helpful list..I gathered some great ideas…blessings your new follower..Nicole

    • I’m so glad, Nicole! It’s nice to meet you too. It was my first time to link up with Wifey Wednesday. Is that where we connected? I can’t remember … old age! ha! Anyway, I appreciate you coming by and lifting my spirits with a comment!

  • Nicole Nolley

    awesome and helpful list..I gathered some great ideas…blessings your new follower..Nicole

  • Pam

    Great ideas, Beth~thanks for the creative ideas on how to pray and to keep our relationship with God fresh! :o)

    • Thanks so much, Pam! I truly appreciate your kind words and friendship soooo much! 🙂

  • Pam

    Great ideas, Beth~thanks for the creative ideas on how to pray and to keep our relationship with God fresh! :o)

  • messymarriage

    Yes, it’s like being able to breathe each day for me, Dolly. I don’t know how people manage in life or marriage without a daily feeding of the soul. Thanks so much for coming by, my friend!

  • messymarriage

    I’m glad you found some of my practices helpful, Mary. I think there are so many ways to leverage our electronics for the betterment of the Kingdom and our own spiritual growth. I really appreciate you coming by and encouraging me, friend!

  • messymarriage

    Yes, and it’s helping me to remember better what those key verses are and where as well. It’s a win-win all the way around, Ngina! Thanks so much for coming by!

  • messymarriage

    What a great testimony of your faithfulness to God … that even your spouse sees Christ in you. Wow, just beautiful, Sylvia! And I think you should still write that post. There are so many people in the cyberworld that I cannot reach, but that you will. You go, girl! And thanks so much for coming by and encouraging me!

  • messymarriage

    It sounds like we are like-minded, Colleen. In fact, many might not like the idea of writing something on their hands but I figure if Christ wears a scar on his hands for me, I can wear a Bible thought for Him! Thanks so much for your kind words and for weighing in, my friend!

  • messymarriage

    Yes, sometimes I get so caught up in all the other marital tools that I forget the “toolbox” that should hold them all together … “in perfect unity!” Thanks so much for coming by, Megan! I appreciate it!

  • messymarriage

    I’m so glad, Nicole! It’s nice to meet you too. It was my first time to link up with Wifey Wednesday. Is that where we connected? I can’t remember … old age! ha! Anyway, I appreciate you coming by and lifting my spirits with a comment!

  • messymarriage

    Thanks so much, Pam! I truly appreciate your kind words and friendship soooo much! 🙂

  • It has been an enlightening read! The way you have attached yourself to the soul and spirit is inspiring. Often women wander away from the soul and get tangled in the worldly tensions of a married life that they end up clueless about how to tackle their life. This is followed by a useless search of unauthentic resources that can never so effectively help us women with their problem, as the word of God can do. I am intrigued to try this solution out and will let you know how it helped me with my miseries.

  • It has been an enlightening read! The way you have attached yourself to the soul and spirit is inspiring. Often women wander away from the soul and get tangled in the worldly tensions of a married life that they end up clueless about how to tackle their life. This is followed by a useless search of unauthentic resources that can never so effectively help us women with their problem, as the word of God can do. I am intrigued to try this solution out and will let you know how it helped me with my miseries.

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