Simple Date #5 – Visit a Museum

My husband and I dedicate Fridays for a “date day” each week—trying to find at least one or two fun things to do and explore on that day. One of those “fun” things has been to go to a museum. I realize that a “museum” date idea might evoke a yawn or a roll of […]

Get Past Awkwardness of Praying with Your Spouse And Linkup

My husband and I have found that praying together is one of the most important things we do for our marriage. I’m not talking about praying at the dinner table or side-by-side at church or other church-related gatherings. Those are all good things  . . . But I want to challenge you today to get […]

How Personal Passions Unite You as a Couple And WW Linkup

My husband and I have been working lately on a “dream that we share”—to lead marriage seminars together. We’ve done a lot of marriage small groups, as well as, mentoring and counseling through our church and some through my life-coaching, but we have only just recently put into action parts of that “shared dream.” I […]

Join the Couple Connection Challenge And WW Linkup!

Recently I conducted a survey with men regarding the difficulties of being open with a wife or girlfriend. The survey is still ongoing, (and if you’re a man who’d like to participate, please click here) but so far the results have been very telling. I’ll be sharing about them soon. Now I may be making […]

Why Confession is Worth the Risk! And WW Linkup!

I’m currently conducting a survey with men {or husbands in particular} that asks, What makes opening up and confessing to a mate or girlfriend so difficult? I only have a small number who’ve responded so far, but the answers to this one question have revealed a glaringly apparent fear of rejection. The sad fact is […]

Beautifully Imperfect Video

Sometimes we take for granted those idiosyncrasies that make our marriage partners beautiful and special just to and for us. If you have allowed those to become points of frustration or irritation in your marriage, then I hope you’ll watch this poignant video to regain a bit of perspective.   What are some beautifully imperfect […]

3 ways dating your spouse is like prayer; and 2 keys to getting better at both! {WW Linkup}

I’m grateful to have Steve Pare from Spouse Dates guest posting with us today! Steve has an incredible and much-needed vision to encourage couples to pursue their mates through dating. You’ll find practical resources like – testimonials from couples who’ve found dating to be crucial to their satisfaction, as well as, a free e-book, 75 […]

‘Broken Together’ Video

I’m going to try and scale back here in order to spend a bit more time working on several book projects I have in the works. So I will be sharing my SJT videos every other week instead of weekly. But on the weeks that I discover a video that’s worth sharing, I’ll be sharing […]

The Unplugged Spouse {WW Linkup}

Today I’m so excited to have a guest post from Ugochi who blogs at Teshuva, where she writes on God’s redemption in life and marriage in ways that really resonate with what we are about here at Messy Marriage. She is continuing our discussion on striving for intimacy and oneness in marriage. I hope you’ll […]

Have a ‘sticky’ marriage? And Linkup!

There are two aspects of marriage that I believe “glue us” to our spouses. When one or both are absent or lacking, you can expect that your marriage and feelings of love will suffer as well. What is that special combo? Any guesses?   Married Sex and a Spiritual Foundation   1. Married Sex* – […]