Simple Date #4 – Movie Night Bedside

It’s often next to impossible to go on a date to the movies with your spouse when you don’t have enough money for expensive box office tickets, and/or you have small children with no reliable babysitter. Sometimes, you might even have a spouse who doesn’t like to go out in a public arena for various […]

Simple Date Idea #3 – Photo Scavenger Hunt

Here in the Midwest we’re having an unusually warm weather pattern for February, which means we have so many more options for going on a simple date. One that my husband and I love to do together involves capturing photos of either the beauty outside or moments inside for a quick selfie of us, or […]

Simple Date #2 – People Watching

In the winter, it’s easy to let dating our spouses go by the wayside. But in this Simple Date Idea # 2—where you go “People Watching”—you can do this in the warmth of a mall or grocery store, as well as combining an errand with dating your mate. Now, that might seem like an awful […]

Make Dating a Priority with Simple Date Idea #1

Sometimes we can let our lives become more crowded and busy than we should with kids to shuttle here and responsibilities to do there, eventually putting the priority of dating our mates on the back burner. Then we wonder why our marriage feels so lifeless and our spouse seems distant and uncaring. If there’s one […]

No Sex, Please – We’re Jedi! Guest Post And FMTM

Today we’re diverting from our series to introduce a once-a-month publication on the sex issues and struggles we face in marriage with a guest post from a dear blogging friend, Andrew Budek-Schmeisser. Andrew shares vulnerably with us today about the relentless challenges that his PTSD has brought upon his marriage and marriage bed. I don’t […]

Connecting You in Marriage

This week I want to share a bit about a project that my husband, Gary, and I have been working on together. As some of you may know, we have done some marriage workshops in 2015 and are now gearing up for many more in 2016. So I wanted to share with you, my Messy […]

How Personal Passions Unite You as a Couple And WW Linkup

My husband and I have been working lately on a “dream that we share”—to lead marriage seminars together. We’ve done a lot of marriage small groups, as well as, mentoring and counseling through our church and some through my life-coaching, but we have only just recently put into action parts of that “shared dream.” I […]

Join the Couple Connection Challenge And WW Linkup!

Recently I conducted a survey with men regarding the difficulties of being open with a wife or girlfriend. The survey is still ongoing, (and if you’re a man who’d like to participate, please click here) but so far the results have been very telling. I’ll be sharing about them soon. Now I may be making […]

The Unplugged Spouse {WW Linkup}

Today I’m so excited to have a guest post from Ugochi who blogs at Teshuva, where she writes on God’s redemption in life and marriage in ways that really resonate with what we are about here at Messy Marriage. She is continuing our discussion on striving for intimacy and oneness in marriage. I hope you’ll […]

10 Questions for Thanksgiving and Linkup!

Today I know that many of you are busy shopping, cooking, cleaning and generally keeping very, VERY busy in preparation for the Thanksgiving holiday on Thursday. I, too, am busy and want to focus on my home and family, so here’s what I’m going to suggest … Disconnect from the blogosphere and connect with your family! […]