How Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’

I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a woman and mother perhaps a bit more than men generally do. Enabling actually springs up from a […]

Resisting God because You Feel Pressured?

This week I’m tackling another way we let our spouses control us … “Resisting spiritual pursuits because your spouse is cramming them down your throat.” The spouse who has been pressured by his/her spouse in this way often “reacts” rather than “responds” to this situation. The distinction is an important one. A “reaction” is letting […]

Super Mom Myth Review and Giveaway! Plus Linkup

I’m “super” excited to do a book review on my bloggy friend, Becky Kopitzke’s first book, The Super Mom Myth that launched recently. If you’ve never visited Becky’s blog, Time Out, you should do that immediately, if not sooner! With humble humor, Becky intertwines the challenges of motherhood with powerful and practical lessons that God […]

The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

8 Things to Avoid When Your Husband Opens Up And Linkup

Today we’re continuing to focus on the answers that I gleaned from my “Men and Openness” survey, in an effort to address some of the hindrances that are present in attempts to communicate between a husband and wife, as well as to point out what encourages better communication. Today I want to focus on the […]

Battling to Spiritually Lead? Sloppy Joe Time Video

Sometimes the “best laid plans” of wives and husband’s go awry! Especially when wives, like me, try to encourage their husbands to lead spiritually. In this video, I share about how I struggle with this in my own marriage and describe how my over-zealousness, eh-hem, “pride” really hurt my husband and children. Maybe you can […]

Can ‘Not Apologizing’ Motivate My Mate? and WW Linkup!

Today I’m continuing my series on why I didn’t apologize to my mate, by tackling the third justification I mentioned two weeks ago. {To see that post click here.} “I believed that because his sins seemed so much worse and more glaring than mine, that by confessing, I would only be pacifying him. In doing […]

Why Your Spouse Can’t Meet Your Needs and WW Linkup!

It’s easy to fall into a codependent or entitled mindset in marriage when we focus on the legitimate “needs” our spouse should be meeting in our lives. You might be thinking, “Come again? Shouldn’t I focus on meeting the needs of my spouse? And I would say a resounding, “YES, you should!” I think being […]

Feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage? SJT Video

Sometimes a common dynamic or mindset develops when a marriage has been in crisis for a extended period of time. Click on the video below to find out what that mindset is in Beth’s latest “Sloppy Joe Time” – “Why won’t ‘you’ change?”   What have been some of the lies you’ve embraced when you’ve […]