My Plan for Dealing with Stress During the Holidays

With Halloween now out of the way, we run headlong into the busiest time of year, the holiday season. And even though the season culminates in the most beloved of days—Christmas—it often ends up causing more stress than inspiring joy, peace and love in our lives. In fact, I’m often tempted to be my “worst […]

‘Writing’ Prayers—Gaining Perspective in Marriage And Linkup

I’m continuing in my series: “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder”—by talking today about lesson #2 on “Writing.” Be advised: this isn’t just writing for the sake of improving our penmanship or literary skills. It is all about a valuable marriage tool available to us […]

4 Healing Ways to Pray for Your Marriage And Linkup

When my marriage was at its messiest, I found healing and perspective not only through God’s word, but also through prayer. If someone asked me what two items I would want to bring with me if I were stranded on a deserted island, I would probably say a “lamp” and a “phone.” But this isn’t […]

How Your Marriage Factors into Your Bible Study Habit And Linkup

Whenever we slow ourselves to be with God through daily prayer and Bible study, we will inevitably face distractions, discouragements and difficulties that can pull us away from this pursuit. It’s never easy to start and maintain a good habit, but so much harder when we start this very important sacred habit. So how do […]

Why the Habit of Studying the Bible Can Make Marriage Messier And Linkup

Back in the early days of my marriage—when it was at its messiest—I faithfully made time for God and His word. It seems like this sacred habit would’ve kept my marriage from sliding into a ditch, so to speak. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case. Therefore, it might seem counterintuitive for me to encourage you to […]

How Slowing Your Heart Transforms Your Marriage And Linkup

My life right now is as fast and busy as ever, being overloaded with a responsibility or two that I probably shouldn’t have taken on! I’m in desperate need of slowing my pace. How about you? 😉 Unfortunately, I’ve always had this tendency. In the South they have a saying about a gal like me […]

Feel like Giving Up on a Bad Marriage?

When you run a race, the hardest part is often when the finish line is almost in sight. After all, you’ll be celebrating just on the other side of that tape! But in the meantime—huff, puff!—it’s downright HARD pushing past that “end-of-marathon” exhaustion and pain. It’s the same way in life and marriage. Persevering through […]

The Workout Your Marriage Needs

When you’re discouraged in your marriage, you might be tempted to think that you need to: a)  Make dating a priority b)  Jazz up your sex life c)  Improve communication d)  Go to a counselor . . . . . . in order to get you and your spouse encouraged and your marriage back on […]

When You Don’t Understand Your Marriage

Today, after a short vacation, I’m returning to my series on “persevering in the Lord.” This week I’m offering one more important way to persevere . . . We persevere in marriage by integrating God’s perspective into our lives. That’s because very often we don’t understand why we must face the pain and difficulty in […]

Giving Up on Your Marriage?

I started blogging (another blog) back in Feb. 2009, and have been blogging at Messy Marriage since October 2010, so it feels like quite a long journey in many ways. For the record . . . I’ve wanted to give up on this blogging endeavor many times! I’ve felt like it’s not worth it more […]