3 Ways God’s Word Can Heal Your Marriage And Linkup

Today I want to talk about the connection I see between my times of study in God’s word and how it heals and helps my marriage. As a counselor and life-coach, I’ve gathered an arsenal of communication and relationship strategies and principles over the years that have been very beneficial to my marriage. I apply […]

How Slowing Your Heart Transforms Your Marriage And Linkup

My life right now is as fast and busy as ever, being overloaded with a responsibility or two that I probably shouldn’t have taken on! I’m in desperate need of slowing my pace. How about you? 😉 Unfortunately, I’ve always had this tendency. In the South they have a saying about a gal like me […]

Is Your Love for Your Mate Failing?

Persevering in life and in certain painful seasons of marriage can feel so very overwhelming and discouraging, especially when the pain lingers for an extended time. We can feel helpless and confused about what to do next. Even worse we can feel like we have nothing left to give, nor want to give—perhaps because we […]

The Workout Your Marriage Needs

When you’re discouraged in your marriage, you might be tempted to think that you need to: a)  Make dating a priority b)  Jazz up your sex life c)  Improve communication d)  Go to a counselor . . . . . . in order to get you and your spouse encouraged and your marriage back on […]

How Prayer Improved My Marriage

As you might already know, I’m beginning a new series on how we can “Persevere in the Lord” in our messy marriages and lives. Last week I shared how challenging our faulty thinking is one powerful way to persevere. You can read that post by clicking here. This week (and every week in this series) […]

Settling this Matter Matters

I spend a lot of time here at Messy Marriage giving practical helps and tools for dealing with the messes in marriage, but the bottom line is that none of that matters if you don’t settle one thing! [Tweet “The one thing you must settle is Christ and what He did for you and me. […]

Feel like a Victim in Marriage?

I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful marriage for a very long time and have tried to combat the issues for as long as they’ve been […]

‘Broken Together’ Video

I’m going to try and scale back here in order to spend a bit more time working on several book projects I have in the works. So I will be sharing my SJT videos every other week instead of weekly. But on the weeks that I discover a video that’s worth sharing, I’ll be sharing […]

A Newlywed’s Most Important Engagement and WW Linkup!

Exciting things are happening at the Steffaniak household! Our family is growing. No, I am most certainly not pregnant! 😉 But we truly are adding a sweet young lady to our mostly male brood! Yippee! Our oldest son, Jordan, popped the question to Sarah, his sweetie, on Saturday, January 17th. It was a foregone conclusion […]

Lessen Stress with 2 Thoughts! and WW Linkup

This is a long one—longer than I like to post—but it’s funny and, I think, worth the read! This past week we celebrated Thanksgiving here in the U.S. and I worked really hard … AND I worked really hard at shifting my focus from feelings of self-pity and negativity too! I think this time of year is […]