What Christ’s Victory Means for My Marriage And 5 Steps to Embrace It! (Linkup)

I’m excited to have Lori Schumaker as my guest today while I’m on vacation. She is sharing her hope-filled insights for when our marriages are impacted by the schemes of the devil, as we continue in my spiritual warfare series. Please make her feel at home here by commenting below and sharing her wise words […]

How to Change Your Behavior so Your Marriage Can Improve (And Linkup)

Even though as a counselor I had to slog my way through lots of classes on Behavioral Psychology or Behavior Modification back in my old school days, I never really felt like behavior alone could create lasting or powerful change in marriage or relationships. However, that’s viewing things from the inside out, like Matthew 15:18 […]

The ABC’s of How to Forgive a Spouse And Linkup

One of the gusty winds people often feel in marriage has to do with a heart growing cold out of a need to forgive a mate. I was there in that frigid place many years ago and still find myself tempted to return to that icy and unforgiving place whenever my husband hurts me. Because […]

Arithmetic – Counting What Counts When Discouraged in Marriage And Linkup

I don’t know where you were when the solar eclipse occurred, but in my neck of the woods, we had an excellent view of it. Some said 99.5%! I feel as if the eclipse is a good way to illustrate my next “lesson” in my Back to School series—“Arithmetic – Counting What Counts.” I think […]

‘Writing’ Prayers—Gaining Perspective in Marriage And Linkup

I’m continuing in my series: “Back to School—7 Lessons on Learning to Love Well When the Winds of Marriage Grow Colder”—by talking today about lesson #2 on “Writing.” Be advised: this isn’t just writing for the sake of improving our penmanship or literary skills. It is all about a valuable marriage tool available to us […]

Stage Two of Confronting a Spouse And Linkup!

In marriage, a lot of couples are able to work through at least a minor to moderate-level conflict without the help of a third or fourth party. 😉  In fact, there’s even advice from Scripture that says outside parties should steer clear of a conflict that is not their own! #dogbite “Interfering in someone else’s […]

First Step to Confront with Grace – And Linkup

Last week I introduced the idea that “grace” is not only shown when we overlook an offense, or even when we hold our tongue and patiently pray for God to convict the other party, but it’s also shown when we confront our offender. But how can that be considered “grace”—to confront someone? Doesn’t that sound […]

How Long Should I Extend Grace in Marriage? And Linkup

I ended last week’s post in the series, The Many Faces of Grace, with this question: When is it unhealthy or “enabling” to overlook an insult or sin in my spouse (or other offender)? I think the questions to consider in this kind of situation are: Is it destructive to one or more relationships? (Creating […]

How to Find Encouragement in the Mess of Marriage Plus Linkup

We all want peaceful lives and marriages where conflicts rarely if ever erupt, right? But more times than not, my life and marriage has been wracked by pain and struggles. #nosurprise There hasn’t been a season in my life—and I’ve lived a fairly long one!—where I didn’t have some kind of hardship or overwhelming stressor […]

Let God’s Word Resurrect Your Love in Marriage And Linkup

Since Easter is fast approaching, I think it’s quite appropriate to talk about how God’s word can resurrect your love in a wounded and messy marriage. I’m continuing my series, “Slow, Know and Grow” by sharing my Bible study method, WORTHY with all of you. But also know that any Bible study method or reading […]