Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video

Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means “messy manipulation” is present!). And I share the three positive strategies I’m using to turn that […]

3 ways dating your spouse is like prayer; and 2 keys to getting better at both! {WW Linkup}

I’m grateful to have Steve Pare from Spouse Dates guest posting with us today! Steve has an incredible and much-needed vision to encourage couples to pursue their mates through dating. You’ll find practical resources like – testimonials from couples who’ve found dating to be crucial to their satisfaction, as well as, a free e-book, 75 […]

How can I cope? SJT Video on resistance to wounds

This follow up Sloppy Joe Time video continues to address what to do when your spouse resists looking at his/her wounds. Last week’s video unpacked the first two suggestions and today’s video gives two more vital steps in the effort to “cope.” The emphasis is on creating a safe zone for your wounded spouse to […]

Lessen Stress with 2 Thoughts! and WW Linkup

This is a long one—longer than I like to post—but it’s funny and, I think, worth the read! This past week we celebrated Thanksgiving here in the U.S. and I worked really hard … AND I worked really hard at shifting my focus from feelings of self-pity and negativity too! I think this time of year is […]

4 Year Blogaversary, Giveaways and Linkup!

I can’t believe it’s been four years since I launched Messy Marriage way back in October of 2010. Since then, much has happened in my life and in the life of this blog, but one thing has remained constant … my personal pursuit of a surrendered heart to God. That’s because I know a surrendered […]

But what do you ‘feel’ about it? and Linkup!

As a life-coach and especially as a woman who’s always loved to explore the intricacies of feelings, I ask that question {in my title} a lot. That’s because most people tend to answer with what they think about a subject or proceed to tell me what they’ve done with that situation and slip right past the […]

I Feel Like a Broken Record!

… And sadly, I’m old enough to remember what that looked like! Ha! I feel like I am just falling farther and farther behind in life lately. Most recently, I’m having to add 7 hours of travel and treatment time for chronic pain/numbness {that I’ve struggled with for the past year or more} to my […]

Review of Darby Dugger’s Devotional

 Today I’m excited to share my book review of For the Love of Our Husbands, 52 Devotions for Wives and Prayers for the Men They Love by blogger and author, Darby Dugger. We’re also offering a giveaway of this devotional, with details on how to enter below. I love Darby’s book and the concept she […]

A Door I’d Rather Not Walk Through . . .

Has God ever taken you through a door that, if you were writing the story, would not be part of your preferred plotline? I trust God knows what He’s doing in my life. In fact, I think God has a plan for this “door” that I’m now being asked to walk through. I’m not saying […]