Why the Habit of Studying the Bible Can Make Marriage Messier And Linkup

Back in the early days of my marriage—when it was at its messiest—I faithfully made time for God and His word. It seems like this sacred habit would’ve kept my marriage from sliding into a ditch, so to speak. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case. Therefore, it might seem counterintuitive for me to encourage you to […]

No Sex, Please – We’re Jedi! Guest Post And FMTM

Today we’re diverting from our series to introduce a once-a-month publication on the sex issues and struggles we face in marriage with a guest post from a dear blogging friend, Andrew Budek-Schmeisser. Andrew shares vulnerably with us today about the relentless challenges that his PTSD has brought upon his marriage and marriage bed. I don’t […]

What Distorts and Damages Men’s Openness? And Linkup

I’m picking up where we left off from the “Men and Openness Survey” series by unpacking question number 4 from the survey … What outside sources have been hindrances to you opening up and sharing your feelings with your wife? (I let the men choose all that applied.) 55.56% – The poor example I saw […]

Healthy Boundaries and Expectations for a Heart-to-Heart And Linkup!

Today I’m continuing in the series that was born out of the results from my Men and Openness survey by unpacking a bit more what a wife (or any spouse for that matter) needs to keep in mind in a heart-to-heart. If you want to encourage openness, establish healthy boundaries and realistic expectations. Click To […]

10 Things You Won’t See Me Post on Facebook

The holidays can be a really depressing time for many people and hard on many marriages. Not only are issues related to grief heightened at holiday times, but the stress and expectations level is usually higher than any other time of year. But what I think makes matters worse is the impact of Facebook. Don’t […]

5 Tips for Finding a Good Counselor

Recently I wrote a post about the unfortunate reality that counseling does not always work or improve a couple’s marriage. I believe there are reasons for this failure and I talk about them at – 7 Reasons Marriage Counseling May Fail. But today I want to give you some insight into how to choose a […]

Trying to unearth your spouse’s wounds? {SJT Video}

This week on Sloppy Joe Time I’m continuing the conversation about the emotional baggage we all have and how to deal with a spouse who is unwilling to “dig up” these old wounds. “Don’t you dare disturb them! They’re lying peacefully in their graves, thank you!” Unfortunately, wounds don’t simply remain confined to the depths […]

Can you read my mind? Video

Today I’m laying out another sloppy expectation that revealed a heaping helping of my “magical thinking” and irrational idealism back in the day! At the time, I simply thought it was an effective way to communicate my frustration and get my husband to “hop to it!” This was something that I had seen my mother do, so […]

Asking For Too Much Communication? And WW Link Up!

{Repost of an article originally published – October, 2010} Let’s face it. There are major differences between men and women, and one of the big ones is the amount of communication women use versus men. Studies have shown that women use approximately 20,000 words per day, compared to the measly 7,000 word count that men […]

Never Asked My Spouse to Help and Wedded Wed Link Up!

While I’m taking a four week break from blogging, I’m sharing some older posts from way back in MM’s vault. This was my very first post that kicked-off a series I dubbed the “Top 10 Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” It was published way back on October, 10 of 2010! Whoa, can’t believe it’s been […]