Why Your Spouse Can’t Meet Your Needs and WW Linkup!

It’s easy to fall into a codependent or entitled mindset in marriage when we focus on the legitimate “needs” our spouse should be meeting in our lives. You might be thinking, “Come again? Shouldn’t I focus on meeting the needs of my spouse? And I would say a resounding, “YES, you should!” I think being […]

What ’50 Shades’ Reveals about Your Marriage and WW Linkup!

I’m amazed at all the hype surrounding 50 Shades of Grey. Our country and probably the world is celebrating the release of this movie in more “shades” than I can count. I haven’t seen a lot of talk on the news or TV about the backlash this movie is creating, but I see it in […]

6 Steps to Effective Boundary Conversations

Today I will be continuing in our series on forgiveness, addressing what is needed to communicate clear and effective boundaries when rebuilding a wounded relationship. Step 1 Determine if you both are ready for the boundary conversation. Look for clear evidence of a heart change in the other {not perfection, mind you!} before you make […]

The Support Needed to Trust Again

Reconciliation is about rebuilding trust because … [Tweet “Trust cannot be given like love or forgiveness. Trust must be earned. “] And trust is earned and established through respect and compliance with healthy boundaries and new ways of relating. So the first job for the two parties is to … Determine what you should require […]

Desperate Marriage Myth #2 – People Cannot Change

Today we’re continuing on in our series, “Desperate Marriages” with the second common myth … People cannot change. Let’s use the example of a spouse getting caught in an affair. After you’ve threatened to divorce him, he straightens up and promises to cut all ties with the other woman. The false belief that “people cannot […]