Taking a Sacred Marital Pause?

I’ve often heard the old saying, “the family that prays together stays together” and I’ve always believed that to be true. But my hubs, Gary, and I have found it to be something of a hard habit to keep in place within our marriage.

Sure, as a family we always pray before we chow down. We also prayed at bedtime with the kiddos when they were, well, “kiddos.” And as separate individuals, our prayer life has always been very active and meaningful too.

But when it came to Gary and I bowing even just momentarily as a couple to pray, we found it hard to make it the thing we do.

I think that Satan loves that. There’s nothing more threatening to him than seeing a husband and wife on their knees together. But I don’t want to give Satan the credit for our neglect of this practice. We have just let the hecticness of our lives invade in those moments that are meant for a sacred marital pause.
It hasn’t been until fairly recently that we’ve been able to get our acts together in this regard. And let me tell you, it has made a noticeable difference in our relationship. There’s just something that binds and bonds us together when we pray. Oh, wait a minute! I think I know . . . that “something” is God!
In many marriage ceremonies there’s the standard reading of the 13th chapter of 1st Corinthians, but another biblical statement that’s occasionally referred to is found in Ecclesiastes:
“… A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
4:12b (NIV)
This statement is often used to signify the strength of the man and the woman inviting Christ into their relationship. When Christ is that third strand, then the husband and wife can weather any storm life brings their way.
Now, I don’t know if you and your spouse pray together. Some of you may not have a believing spouse, so praying together is simply not done. And some of you may have a spouse that is uncomfortable with the practice. I must say, it is a very intimate thing to do together. I think Gary and I are never more vulnerable than when we are talking with our Maker and Savior together.
Thankfully, Gary and I have always wanted to pray together, so making it a priority has never been debated. But what if those of you who have a willing spouse committed to pray together with me and Gary for the next 30 days—till Memorial Day, let’s say. Then on that day, I will post about how Gary and I are being positively impacted by our prayers together.
And maybe you could come on back and tell us how praying has positively impacted you and your marriage too!  Just do it—pray together!

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  • Praying together really is so important – prayer is the most powerful thing we have at our disposal here on earth. Although our own prayers are important, surely gathering as ‘two or three in His name’ is even more powerful when it is husband and wife together. This is a wonderful, encouraging post. Thank you so much for sharing it.

  • I know how hard it is to make the time to pray together. Some mornings we don’t have more than a minute to say a quick prayer and some nights I fall asleep before my husband comes to bed. I do know that the times we pray together, we are somehow better equipped to face the day’s challenges. My husband’s blessing for the day makes me feel safe and loved.
    Love the challenge you’ve issued for yourself and your readers. Good Luck! I know you’ll be blessed by your effort.

    God’s blessings to you and your family.

  • Beth and Gary….:)

  • Beautiful words of encouragement! Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today, Beth.

    e-Mom @ Chrysalis

  • Nice:) True that it is hard to make it a priority. So much is more difficult when the kids are kiddos, as you put it.

  • Thanks to everyone for commenting and bringing out even more important points to ponder! I especially like the thought that “where two or more are gathered together,” there God is among them! There’s such power in a couple praying! Maybe if we all did it daily, I’d be out of a job (since I’m a counselor and all:)!

  • I an the total culprit in this scenario. I have some confidence issues that have NOTHING to do with my husband. He has a few times in our marriage tried to make this a priority, but gives up when he realizes I’m “going along with it” and not really invested. I am more vulnerable during personal prayer time than I am even in the bedroom. Tolerating intimacy is something am working on and this is a good challenge/tool to help with those goals. Thanks Beth!