Will you meet ‘my’ needs? SJT Video

In this video, I share how anytime I seek my independence and focus on getting “my needs”* met in marriage, I create something of a “tug-of-war” with my husband. I offer a “work-in-progress” strategy that has changed the dynamic and atmosphere of my marriage drastically for the better whenever I use it! I hope you’ll check it out […]

Lessen Stress with 2 Thoughts! and WW Linkup

This is a long one—longer than I like to post—but it’s funny and, I think, worth the read! This past week we celebrated Thanksgiving here in the U.S. and I worked really hard … AND I worked really hard at shifting my focus from feelings of self-pity and negativity too! I think this time of year is […]

Not Here But There …

This past week my husband and I attended the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) conference down in Branson, Missouri. It was great to get to go and soak up all that the experts had to teach, inspire and offer us. Needless to say, I didn’t have the time to produce a video for Sloppy Joe Time […]

The Bigger Picture and Linkup!

It’s hard to believe but exactly a year ago today my husband and I were smack-dab in the middle of the trip of a lifetime to England and Wales. It was our 25th (plus one!) anniversary trip and it was everything and more that we had hoped for! Which made me feel as if God […]

Turning ‘Messy into Messages’ and Blog Hop

I’ve been blessed in this bloggy community by so many amazing and encouraging friends, but one that continues to bless and encourage me is, Linda Stoll of Creekside Ministries. Not only do we have a lot in common {both life-coaches} but we share the same heartbeat in ministry and writing. So I was thrilled when […]

The Problem of Avoiding Conflict with My Spouse and WW Link Up!

Today is another repost of an oldie {October 2010} but a goodie from my series, “The Top Ten Mistakes I Made in Marriage.” Enjoy! I grew up in a family that didn’t really know how to resolve conflicts in a healthy way. Often my parents played opposite positions in times of conflict, but neither position […]

Realistic Expectations and WW Link Up!

I’ve just finished a forgiveness series that I’m planning on turning into a free ebook for my current and new subscribers. Yay! 🙂 But in order to do that and to tackle the more-than-I-can-properly-describe-long-list-of-to-do’s, I must take time away from blogging. That doesn’t mean I’m leaving Messy Marriage without a weekly post—actually “repost.” During my […]

Redeeming the Year of the Broken-Down

I keep promising things I can’t really deliver. That is SOOOO not like me! I’ve always prided myself in my follow-through, but my life continues to be just.too.crowded. I keep thinking of the iconic scene in “I Love Lucy” where Lucy and Ethel were working in a chocolate factory and the speed is just too […]

Blogging Friendships that Bless!

A while back, I asked two blogging friends, Linda of Creekside Ministries and Sheila of Longings End if I could meet them in person over a cup of coffee after a conference that my husband and I were attending in New York. Linda wasn’t content with “just coffee” and suggested that we all have dinner […]

Wedded Wednesday and Finding Rest

My husband and I have had the joy of attending the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Marriage and Leadership Conferences at Peter and Geri Scazzero’s church, New Life Fellowship this past week . And this week we’re enjoying the sites and sounds of treck up the New England coast. This photo was taken at Boston Harbor where […]