Increase Good Chemistry of Love in Marriage (And Linkup)

I’m continuing to unpack another lesson in my “Back to School” series by discussing today how I gained back the “chemistry” or feelings of love that had cooled when my marriage was at its messiest. I learned the hard way that what I do drastically impacts the way I feel in my marriage. Let me […]

Love Language Gift Ideas for Your Spouse And Linkup

Because Valentines Day is less than a week away, I wanted to turn my focus to romance and the power of giving just the right gift to each of our unique partners. I’d like to use Gary Chapman’s book and concept based on five distinct love languages* as the basis for a Valentines gift-giving guide […]

No Sex, Please – We’re Jedi! Guest Post And FMTM

Today we’re diverting from our series to introduce a once-a-month publication on the sex issues and struggles we face in marriage with a guest post from a dear blogging friend, Andrew Budek-Schmeisser. Andrew shares vulnerably with us today about the relentless challenges that his PTSD has brought upon his marriage and marriage bed. I don’t […]

Why I’m an ‘Avoider’ in My Marriage and FMTM

I’m what’s referred to as an “Avoider” in my “love-style.” I’ve also got a dash of “Vacillator” and a pinch of “Pleaser” in me as well. Even though it might sound like it, I’m not talking about a tasty autumn soup. 😉 What I’m referring to are some of the “love-styles” that are developed from“imprints” […]

Are You Pushing or Encouraging Your Mate Spiritually?

Most of you know that I’m a pastor’s wife, but that doesn’t mean I’m not guilty of pushing my hubby spiritually when it seems like he’s not pursuing God with the same intensity as I am. Of course, sometimes he feels that way about me too. 😉 We all go through seasons when our spiritual […]

Is affection all that important in marriage? SJT Video

Howdy, Partner! It’s “Sloppy Joe Time” again! And today I’m talking about how easy it is for me to hang out at “Lazy Butt Ranch.” You see, I’ve had this sloppy expectation, hoping that my hubby will let me just coast on the amount of affection I give him—especially since we’re hitched! But marriage doesn’t […]

How Personal Passions Unite You as a Couple And WW Linkup

My husband and I have been working lately on a “dream that we share”—to lead marriage seminars together. We’ve done a lot of marriage small groups, as well as, mentoring and counseling through our church and some through my life-coaching, but we have only just recently put into action parts of that “shared dream.” I […]

A Tool for Recapturing Young Love

As many of you know, my oldest son, Jordan, recently married his sweetheart, Sarah, back in June. The joy and enthusiasm of their young love is proving to be very inspiring to me an oldie-wed. Since Sarah is a blogger, photographer, and videographer, my husband and I have lots of opportunities to witness their love […]

Push Out of Your Comfort Zone And WW Linkup!

I mentioned during week one of the “Triple C” challenge that I wanted to gradually make each week in this challenge a bit more vulnerable—pushing you ever-so-slightly out of your comfort zone. So far I believe I’ve kept the challenges fairly safe and mild. But this week it’s time to ramp it up a tad. […]

How Small Acts of Love Transform Your Heart And WW Linkup

When we first get married, connecting with our spouse almost always feels as natural as breathing. You feel compelled to connect because your emotions are so strong and vibrant for your bride or groom. You want to get to know everything there is to know about this mysterious person because, well, … you don’t know […]