Giving Grace When it’s Hard and Goes Unnoticed

One of the hardest challenges of living out grace in my marriage has and continues to be extending grace (my “one word”) when it has gone unnoticed or does not get returned. I think that’s because positives can easily go under the radar for most everyone—especially and including by me! 😉 The negatives, the bad […]

Why You Should Avoid Being the ‘Best Version of Yourself’

Have you heard the catchy slogan—be the “best version of yourself”? Author and motivational speaker Mathew Kelly was the one who came up with this motto and message. His upbeat focus has even penetrated the Christian mainstream—being encouraged in churches and between believers in the day-to-day.  I also heard this mantra mentioned in the trailer for […]

2 Important Ways to Love the ‘Turkey’ at Your Table

I don’t know about you, but I’ve both loved and hated the family gatherings that come with Thanksgiving or other holiday celebrations. Typically, this is because of the work that leaves me and so many others I love stressed. But sometimes the stress come from awkward and friction-filled, even resentment-laden, relationships that we have with […]

What I Learned About Myself by Doing an ‘Argument Autopsy’

Recently, I was Sheila Gregoire’s guest at her blog, To Love Honor and Vacuum, where I shared about an argument I had with my husband years ago that resulted in several important and helpful insights about myself. Though I don’t exactly enjoy having to learn lessons the hard way, that’s often the best and most […]

My Plan for Dealing with Stress During the Holidays

With Halloween now out of the way, we run headlong into the busiest time of year, the holiday season. And even though the season culminates in the most beloved of days—Christmas—it often ends up causing more stress than inspiring joy, peace and love in our lives. In fact, I’m often tempted to be my “worst […]

Video of Wives Confessing Bad Habits in Marriage

I’m excited to be back with another video chronicling the confessions of several wives on one or two bad habits they bring into their marriages. These are all from friends of mine who share openly about their flaws, along with a few that are laugh-out-loud funny! I hope you’ll stick around to watch this 5 minute […]

How to Change Your Behavior so Your Marriage Can Improve (And Linkup)

Even though as a counselor I had to slog my way through lots of classes on Behavioral Psychology or Behavior Modification back in my old school days, I never really felt like behavior alone could create lasting or powerful change in marriage or relationships. However, that’s viewing things from the inside out, like Matthew 15:18 […]

How ‘Stranger Things’ is like the ‘Fine Art’ of Listening (& Linkup)

My husband and I have been watching the Netflix series “Stranger Things” lately, and I see a metaphor in that show that perfectly illustrates the “Fine Art” of listening. What is it? Well, let me lay some groundwork before I reveal that answer. There’s no hiding the fact that my husband and I have had some […]

Increase Good Chemistry of Love in Marriage (And Linkup)

I’m continuing to unpack another lesson in my “Back to School” series by discussing today how I gained back the “chemistry” or feelings of love that had cooled when my marriage was at its messiest. I learned the hard way that what I do drastically impacts the way I feel in my marriage. Let me […]

Husbands Confess How Pride Made Their Marriage Messier

I’m excited to unveil the first of the Confession Videos where husbands answer the question: “What prideful attitude or action have you done in your marriage that has made it messier?” In my experience, pride has been a huge factor in hurting my own marriage, not to mention the marriages of those I counsel. So […]