64 Abusive Actions That Spell Trouble for Your Marriage

We live in a culture and world racked by a rising and alarming number of sexual abuse accusations right now. But in marriage, the issue of abuse of every type can be extremely murky and convoluted. I think that’s because it’s so hard to know when your spouse is crossing a healthy and appropriate boundary […]

8 Red Flags That Might Mean Your Spouse is Having an Affair

Here at Messy Marriage I always try to encourage spouses to persevere in their marriages with the help of the Lord, even though sometimes a major problem, like an affair, can rock a marriage to its core. If this is, or might be, your situation, my hope is that you aren’t immediately running for a […]

3 Ways to Cover Others with Love When Hurt or Stressed

How did you fare on getting through the stress of the Thanksgiving holiday? Did it fill you up with large helpings of turkey, as well as fun times spent with family and friends? Or were you fed up by someone’s hurtful words and/or actions? Sadly, family gatherings often come and go with heaping portions of […]

First Step to Confront with Grace – And Linkup

Last week I introduced the idea that “grace” is not only shown when we overlook an offense, or even when we hold our tongue and patiently pray for God to convict the other party, but it’s also shown when we confront our offender. But how can that be considered “grace”—to confront someone? Doesn’t that sound […]

No More Perfect Marriages Book Review, Giveaway and Linkup

I’m excited to be reviewing Mark and Jill Savage’s new marriage book, No More Perfect Marriages, and giving away one copy to one randomly chosen person who comments on this post. Jill is the founder of Hearts at Home ministry and has authored and coauthored five books—two of which were with her husband Mark. This […]

My Failure to Control Myself And WW Linkup

I find it funny (or sad—you pick!) that, not only can I have trouble with being too controlling with my hubby, but I can go to the other extreme and not be controlling enough—of at least myself! [Tweet “My failure with control is contradictory! #whatsupwiththat? #controlfreak #outofcontrol”] I’m continuing the series—“My Failures, God’s Inroads”—with a […]

Call it what it is—Adultery! And WW Linkup

I have a confession to make … I’m an adulterer. 🙁 Sadly, I have sins in my life that have moved from a one time offense, to a habit, to a compulsion, to an addiction. I mentioned some of those in my last post that you can read here. In fact, we all need to […]

The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

The Day I Walked Out on My Husband And WW Linkup

Today we have Aimee Imbeau who blogs at A Work of Grace with us sharing a guest post and hosting Wedded Wednesday while I am on vacation. I hope you’ll welcome her with oodles of comments and encouragement! 😉 I was devastated by his careless words spoken the night before as I walked out my […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]