Why I’m an ‘Avoider’ in My Marriage and FMTM

I’m what’s referred to as an “Avoider” in my “love-style.” I’ve also got a dash of “Vacillator” and a pinch of “Pleaser” in me as well. Even though it might sound like it, I’m not talking about a tasty autumn soup. 😉 What I’m referring to are some of the “love-styles” that are developed from“imprints” […]

How My Hubby Was There for Me in My Pain And FMTM

Today I want to share a post that brags just a bit about my husband—pointing out how he recently was there for me in my pain. To understand the significance of this lesson he’s learned in our marriage, you have to know where he’s come from in comparison to where he is now. Years ago, […]

How Prayer Improved My Marriage

As you might already know, I’m beginning a new series on how we can “Persevere in the Lord” in our messy marriages and lives. Last week I shared how challenging our faulty thinking is one powerful way to persevere. You can read that post by clicking here. This week (and every week in this series) […]

Coming Out as a Christian to Your Unbelieving Spouse

I’m excited to have yet another edition of “Picking Hubby’s Brain” as we endeavor to answer one of the many questions we’ve been given from you our readers/viewers on how to navigate challenges in marriage. This husband’s question deals with “change” and in particular dealing with a drastic change in marriage, moving from atheism to […]

Validation Brings Healing And Linkup

There’s a common thread that flows through most triggers and the wounds of our pasts. That thread can be found in the extremes. We feel extreme pain or emotion whenever we’ve been triggered. Or We go to an extreme on a continuum—into parenting mode or child/teenager mode—when we’ve been triggered. If we can remain in […]

What Men Fear about Opening Up And Linkup

Today I want to continue to unpack the results of the “Men and Openness” survey by looking at question #5 … What do you feel you need to overcome in order to be better able to identify and share your feelings? (I allowed the men to choose all that applied) 70.49% – My fear of […]

5 Steps for a Successful Heart-to-Heart with Your Wife And Linkup

Today, we’re going one step further in our discussion on “Men and Openness” by talking about … “talking about our feelings.” Based upon the Men and Openness survey I conducted recently, 53.45% of the men chose – “I don’t know how to articulate my feelings” as their second highest response to why opening up with […]

Every Marriage Needs Adventure!

Some of my best memories of bonding with my family when I was a child were from the many vacations we took. Since my dad was a pastor, we often to traveled to wherever the SBC annual conventions were held, so I got to see so many great places across the U.S. I’m grateful that […]

A Wife’s Perspective on Men and Openness And WW Linkup!

In a couple of weeks I will be diving into a series on “Men and Openness” that’s based upon a survey that I’ve been conducting for several months now. But today I want to approach this sticky subject from my own feminine and often skewed (probably due to Estrogen) perspective. 😉 [Tweet “My husband and […]

Can Prayer Change Us? SJT Video

It’s time for another “Sloppy Joe Time” and today I’m talking about how crazy it was for me and my hubby to think we could avoid a messy marriage without making a commitment to pray together daily. Find out what this one small act did for our marriage and what it can do for yours […]