Are You Accidentally In-Validating Your Spouse?

A couple of weeks ago I wrote, “4 Ways to Validate Your Spouse” and one of my readers, Laura Lee of Outnumberedmom suggested that I write about what validation is NOT because many people think they’re validating someone when nothing is further from the truth. I totally agree! I’ve been there, in a deep conversation […]

A Painful Year of Changes

Written by Heather CoppleMessy Marriage Team Writer This past year has been hard.  So much has happened and not all of it good. But then that is life. Thankfully, we don’t always have to like it. I know that I haven’t liked all the changes and I’m sure neither has my husband, Scott. Let’s start […]

Finding Love in the Wilderness

March’s “Share Your Story” is byAnna White who blogs at2Day I Choose I got married at 20, not purely for love, but because I was running away from home and God and a bad situation as fast as I could.  The first few years we were married I know we both wondered what we had […]

5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

1. I liked the way you … yesterday. They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten […]

Why I Didn’t Leave My Husband

My husband and I are leading a marriage group through our church, using the book, Intimate Encounters. In the first chapter you’re asked to complete a marriage inventory that reveals how strong you are in specific areas of your marriage. It wasn’t a surprise to me that our strongest area is and has always been […]

Are You Invisible or Transparent?

Take this quiz: Do you consistently own up to your faults and sins or fear the ramifications of doing so? Do you let “trusted” friends (as opposed to all your Facebook friends) know how you’re “really” doing or keep things to yourself? Are you and most of your friends more self-accepting or self-conscious/self-condemning? Do you […]

He Won’t Talk to Me

Photo by Ed Passi One of the challenging areas in my marriage is conversation. Part of the problem is that we already know so much about each other that there’s little mystery.   What’s new to talk about that hasn’t already been covered in countless conversations in the past? Another issue is that I am […]

Do You Remember the Good Times?

Two years ago, I acted on God’s nudging to start a blog called Messy Marriage. I felt that He wanted me to write about all the ways life and marriage is and can be messy. But I also felt God wanted me to tell of how He is able to redeem the mess—making it into […]

Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage?

Recently a comment caught my attention. First of all, because of the pain I was sensing in this person’s words, and second, because it got me to thinking about my own messy marriage journey. Here’s the comment to an article I posted about a spouse continually refusing to admit fault … My wife has behaved […]

Ties That Bind

Today’s article is another “Share Your Story,” a contribution from blogger,   Kelli of Chronicles of Grace We meet between the sheets on Memorial Day weekend. After the tension drains out of our words and the last of the light drips out of the sky. Peace is sewn on like a fresh patch covers a […]