5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

1. I liked the way you … yesterday. They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten […]

Why I Didn’t Leave My Husband

My husband and I are leading a marriage group through our church, using the book, Intimate Encounters. In the first chapter you’re asked to complete a marriage inventory that reveals how strong you are in specific areas of your marriage. It wasn’t a surprise to me that our strongest area is and has always been […]

Are You Invisible or Transparent?

Take this quiz: Do you consistently own up to your faults and sins or fear the ramifications of doing so? Do you let “trusted” friends (as opposed to all your Facebook friends) know how you’re “really” doing or keep things to yourself? Are you and most of your friends more self-accepting or self-conscious/self-condemning? Do you […]

He Won’t Talk to Me

Photo by Ed Passi One of the challenging areas in my marriage is conversation. Part of the problem is that we already know so much about each other that there’s little mystery.   What’s new to talk about that hasn’t already been covered in countless conversations in the past? Another issue is that I am […]

Do You Remember the Good Times?

Two years ago, I acted on God’s nudging to start a blog called Messy Marriage. I felt that He wanted me to write about all the ways life and marriage is and can be messy. But I also felt God wanted me to tell of how He is able to redeem the mess—making it into […]

Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage?

Recently a comment caught my attention. First of all, because of the pain I was sensing in this person’s words, and second, because it got me to thinking about my own messy marriage journey. Here’s the comment to an article I posted about a spouse continually refusing to admit fault … My wife has behaved […]

Ties That Bind

Today’s article is another “Share Your Story,” a contribution from blogger,   Kelli of Chronicles of Grace We meet between the sheets on Memorial Day weekend. After the tension drains out of our words and the last of the light drips out of the sky. Peace is sewn on like a fresh patch covers a […]

The Drought of 2012

Written by Stacey Micklevitz Messy Marriage Team Member You’d have to be living under a rock to be unaware of this year’s drought. Add to that the record heat, and you’re walking earth that yearns for water. We’re at a point where an occasional rain won’t even make a dent in the severe deficit that’s […]

How My Father Issues Impacted My Marriage

  As I’ve hinted at in my last two posts, I didn’t have much of a relationship with my father growing up. He was like a stranger to me in many ways. He was a workaholic pastor who wasn’t home much and, when he was, he didn’t know how to reach out or connect. When […]

Differences

Written by Heather Copple Messy Marriage Team Member Scott and I look at the world very differently for many reasons. Our gender, our childhoods and our personalities are the main reasons for those differences. Some of the differences bring out the best in each other and some don’t really do anything good or bad, but […]