5 Ways to Increase Affection in Your Marriage

Do you remember the Dave Matthew’s song, “Everyday”? More importantly, do you remember the funny video that accompanied the song? There are several versions out there but they always depict a guy going around town, making it his mission to collect hugs. I think my husband really “gets” that guy. He’s very affectionate and often […]

When You’re Attracted to Someone Else

  Can you relate? You’ve been feeling it coming on for weeks, maybe months now. Every time you see this person s/he makes you feel special, noticed. You know it’s not right to feel this way about someone other than your spouse, but it’s been a long time since your spouse looked at you that […]

Are You Accidentally In-Validating Your Spouse?

A couple of weeks ago I wrote, “4 Ways to Validate Your Spouse” and one of my readers, Laura Lee of Outnumberedmom suggested that I write about what validation is NOT because many people think they’re validating someone when nothing is further from the truth. I totally agree! I’ve been there, in a deep conversation […]

A Painful Year of Changes

Written by Heather CoppleMessy Marriage Team Writer This past year has been hard.  So much has happened and not all of it good. But then that is life. Thankfully, we don’t always have to like it. I know that I haven’t liked all the changes and I’m sure neither has my husband, Scott. Let’s start […]

Finding Love in the Wilderness

March’s “Share Your Story” is byAnna White who blogs at2Day I Choose I got married at 20, not purely for love, but because I was running away from home and God and a bad situation as fast as I could.  The first few years we were married I know we both wondered what we had […]

5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

1. I liked the way you … yesterday. They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten […]

Why I Didn’t Leave My Husband

My husband and I are leading a marriage group through our church, using the book, Intimate Encounters. In the first chapter you’re asked to complete a marriage inventory that reveals how strong you are in specific areas of your marriage. It wasn’t a surprise to me that our strongest area is and has always been […]

Are You Invisible or Transparent?

Take this quiz: Do you consistently own up to your faults and sins or fear the ramifications of doing so? Do you let “trusted” friends (as opposed to all your Facebook friends) know how you’re “really” doing or keep things to yourself? Are you and most of your friends more self-accepting or self-conscious/self-condemning? Do you […]

He Won’t Talk to Me

Photo by Ed Passi One of the challenging areas in my marriage is conversation. Part of the problem is that we already know so much about each other that there’s little mystery.   What’s new to talk about that hasn’t already been covered in countless conversations in the past? Another issue is that I am […]

Do You Remember the Good Times?

Two years ago, I acted on God’s nudging to start a blog called Messy Marriage. I felt that He wanted me to write about all the ways life and marriage is and can be messy. But I also felt God wanted me to tell of how He is able to redeem the mess—making it into […]