Learning the Hard Way

If you are in a messy marriage, you may feel like, “When are things going to get easier?” Maybe you’ve gone to counseling, you’ve prayed and prayed for your marriage, you’ve worked on communicating better with your spouse, you’ve read marriage book after marriage book, and next to nothing ever happens or changes for the […]

What Are You Trying to Redo?

Ever wonder why you do the things you do? As human beings, everything we do is for a reason. Since God created us with such complexity, there may be a variety of reasons at play. But one of the important sources for all that we do is called the “Homing Instinct.” In today’s electronic world, […]

Falling Forward

Sometimes I let the doubts about who I am—messiness and all—get me down. I wonder, How can I ever lead others into healing and wholeness in marriage or life, if I don’t have it all together myself?   The reality is that very often I don’t feel qualified. I don’t feel capable. I don’t feel […]

Mixed Feelings on My Boys, Marriage and Milestones

Today’s topic on Marriage Monday is Children and Marriage. This seems like a timely topic for me, since I’ve found myself reflecting back on those many years of raising my three boys, due to some milestone moments of late. And not only have I reflected on the past, but I’ve also looked ahead to my […]

Mixed Feelings on My Boys, Marriage and Milestones

Today’s topic on Marriage Monday is Children and Marriage. This seems like a timely topic for me, since I’ve found myself reflecting back on those many years of raising my three boys due to some milestone moments of late. And not only have I reflected on the past, but I’ve also looked ahead to my […]

Keep the Change!

Written by Stacey Micklevitz Messy Marriage Team Member How often do we hear friends lament that their spouses “have changed?” Such a complaint is common among those who are unhappy in their marriages or are heading toward divorce. The comment is often accompanied by “He/she is just not the same person he/she was when we […]

Spark #1 Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

In response to two recent comments, I want to address practical and/or romantic ways you can add a “spark” to your marriage. Since there are so many things that can reignite that spark, and since it often takes multiple efforts over time to rejuvenate a relationship, I don’t want to overwhelm you with a long […]