Are You Making Your Spouse Your savior?

I had a very messy marriage back in the day, and this was directly related to an even messier view of my identity. My lagging sense of self worth set me up for pursuing my husband as my savior, instead of pursuing my Savior as my Savior. Oh sure, I’d received Christ as my Savior […]

What to Do When a Confrontation Fails And Linkup

Confronting your spouse about an offense is never a quick, easy or simple endeavor. But there’s a passage in the Bible that offers a step-by-step process—giving us a healthy and right strategy for approaching serious and ongoing conflicts in marriage and other relationships. If you’ve been reading along in my “Many Faces of Grace” series, […]

Stage Two of Confronting a Spouse And Linkup!

In marriage, a lot of couples are able to work through at least a minor to moderate-level conflict without the help of a third or fourth party. 😉  In fact, there’s even advice from Scripture that says outside parties should steer clear of a conflict that is not their own! #dogbite “Interfering in someone else’s […]

How Long Should I Extend Grace in Marriage? And Linkup

I ended last week’s post in the series, The Many Faces of Grace, with this question: When is it unhealthy or “enabling” to overlook an insult or sin in my spouse (or other offender)? I think the questions to consider in this kind of situation are: Is it destructive to one or more relationships? (Creating […]

What Extending Grace Looks like in Marriage – Plus Linkup

One of the things that has often confounded me is, when do I extend grace? Is it all the time? And what does grace even look like, especially in marriage? I think of grace like forgiveness—letting something go. After all, the Lord certainly has let go of the need to punish me for my sin—dying […]

How to Find Encouragement in the Mess of Marriage Plus Linkup

We all want peaceful lives and marriages where conflicts rarely if ever erupt, right? But more times than not, my life and marriage has been wracked by pain and struggles. #nosurprise There hasn’t been a season in my life—and I’ve lived a fairly long one!—where I didn’t have some kind of hardship or overwhelming stressor […]

Let God’s Word Resurrect Your Love in Marriage And Linkup

Since Easter is fast approaching, I think it’s quite appropriate to talk about how God’s word can resurrect your love in a wounded and messy marriage. I’m continuing my series, “Slow, Know and Grow” by sharing my Bible study method, WORTHY with all of you. But also know that any Bible study method or reading […]

3 Ways God’s Word Can Heal Your Marriage And Linkup

Today I want to talk about the connection I see between my times of study in God’s word and how it heals and helps my marriage. As a counselor and life-coach, I’ve gathered an arsenal of communication and relationship strategies and principles over the years that have been very beneficial to my marriage. I apply […]

How Your Marriage Factors into Your Bible Study Habit And Linkup

Whenever we slow ourselves to be with God through daily prayer and Bible study, we will inevitably face distractions, discouragements and difficulties that can pull us away from this pursuit. It’s never easy to start and maintain a good habit, but so much harder when we start this very important sacred habit. So how do […]

How to Connect with God Daily And Linkup

With all the knowledge I’ve gleaned and used over the years as a marriage counselor and life-coach, none of that really made as big of a difference in my marriage as connecting daily with God. But the biggest challenge for most people seems to be establishing that sacred habit. So today I will be sharing […]