Am I Your Soft Place to Fall? Video

Today, I’m sharing another video in our series of “sloppy expectations” in marriage. I explore the best way to respond to our spouses when we are confronted by how we’ve hurt them.     What thoughts typically run through your head when your spouse shares how you’ve hurt them?    What do you think could help you to look […]

The Bigger Picture and Linkup!

It’s hard to believe but exactly a year ago today my husband and I were smack-dab in the middle of the trip of a lifetime to England and Wales. It was our 25th (plus one!) anniversary trip and it was everything and more that we had hoped for! Which made me feel as if God […]

Did I Marry Mr. Wrong? Video

  Hey there! I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch my latest edition of “Sloppy Joe Time.” I’m exploring the sloppy expectation that marriage should be easy, and if it’s not, then we married the wrong person.     The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the […]

12 Ways We Push Our Spouses Away and WW Link Up!

Very often we push our spouses away without even knowing we’re doing it on a conscious level. Sadly, I’m just as guilty of clinging to many of these “12 Ways” as you might be. In fact, I’d be better off telling you which ones I don’t struggle with, than to name the long list of […]

Realistic Expectations and WW Link Up!

I’ve just finished a forgiveness series that I’m planning on turning into a free ebook for my current and new subscribers. Yay! 🙂 But in order to do that and to tackle the more-than-I-can-properly-describe-long-list-of-to-do’s, I must take time away from blogging. That doesn’t mean I’m leaving Messy Marriage without a weekly post—actually “repost.” During my […]

Redeeming the Year of the Broken-Down

I keep promising things I can’t really deliver. That is SOOOO not like me! I’ve always prided myself in my follow-through, but my life continues to be just.too.crowded. I keep thinking of the iconic scene in “I Love Lucy” where Lucy and Ethel were working in a chocolate factory and the speed is just too […]

When You Don’t Feel Like Forgiving

If you’ve lived with the day in and day out abuse or hurt from a boundary-busting offender for very long, it’s easy to feel so fed up that you don’t want to forgive him or her. You may have come to believe the half-truth that forgiving someone means “you’ve let them off the hook.” Or […]

How Comparing Can be Good

Many are choosing “one word” to focus on in the new year and I’ve been prayerfully searching for what God might want mine to be. Oddly enough, I feel Him drawing my focus over and over to the word “compare.” At first glance, compare didn’t seem like a very inspiring choice to me. After all, […]

What Does God Want to Give You in Your Losses?

As I face breast cancer, I’ve become extremely aware of the battle going on in my mind. When my focus is on the “loss” or “losses” I’m facing, I begin to feel, well, like a “loser.” But God has been so patient and kind with me and has gently reminded me that … He never […]

What Types of Risks are You Taking?

On my trip to the UK, there were so many “God moments”—moments when I knew that God was busy at work doing things like only He can do! One of those moments was when my husband and I were on the Tube (The underground subway system in London). BTW, we became quite skilled in reading […]