When Your Spouse Refuses to Work on the Marriage

by tizoultro There are times when dealing with a spouse who refuses to work on your marriage can feel overwhelming, hopeless, and even paralyzing. It’s easy to feel like giving up or to believe that you have no way to improve your relationship when you’ve been in that kind of frustrating situation for any length […]

Blaming Yourself for the Mess?

Sometimes we get hung up in a messy marriage because we blame our partner or even God, like I mentioned in my post last week, Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage. But sometimes we feel we’re the one to blame for the messes in our marriage. Are you burdened down with guilt and shame for […]

Consumed with Life = No Margin

There’s this scary idea that what’s most important about our lives will be captured by a “dash” on our tombstone … he/she was born in 1960/70/80 something, followed by the dash before the date of death. The real dilemma is, we all want to make our “dash” count, right? Photo by Jo Naylor But the […]

A Marriage Destroyed by Sin, Redeemed by Grace

Today’s article is another “Share Your Story”  from blogger, Megan Elzey who writes at Sunshine Through the Windows.   My husband, Scott, and I fell in love when he was a junior and I was a senior in high school. Although we married fairly young, we’d already been dating for 5 and a half years. […]

How to Forgive the Continual Offender

  Okay, my title is a cleverly disguised attempt at “word-management.” Actually, what I really meant to say is, “How to Forgive Your Spouse” because … let’s be honest folks, our spouses offend us A LOT! We ask our spouse to pick up his/her dirty clothes and our spouse nods with agreement, but what do […]

Finding Purpose from Our Pain

  In case you don’t know it, I’m transitioning from a counselor to a life coach. Because of that, I’ve been working diligently over the past year and a half to develop my coaching niches. One of the areas I’ve researched has been finding and clarifying “purpose” or “calling” in peoples’ lives. What’s interesting is […]

The Song of a Crushed Spirit

Written by Kimberly Green Messy Marriage Team Member My husband and I met during our college years. We shared a Love of Jesus and a Passion for Music, and nothing stirred that passion like communicating with the Lord through Worship. His favorite verse was Psalm 33:3, “Sing to Him a new song. Play skillfully with […]

10 Benefits of Truth Telling

I’ve always been an open book—even when I didn’t (and don’t) intend to be. This tendency has become something of a strategy for me over the past 15 years or so. I say “strategy” because it’s something I’ve been very intentional about as I’ve discovered the power of the truth. Of course, there was a […]

Falling Forward

Sometimes I let the doubts about who I am—messiness and all—get me down. I wonder, How can I ever lead others into healing and wholeness in marriage or life, if I don’t have it all together myself?   The reality is that very often I don’t feel qualified. I don’t feel capable. I don’t feel […]

Do You Really Want to Get Well?

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I like the perks that come with being sick. When you’re sick, you usually … Don’t have to do your daily responsibilities. Have someone to take care of your many needs. Are given more understanding and concern from those who are healthy. Can nestle down into some comfy […]