M Trifecta: Messy Married Mom

Written by Stacey MicklevitzMessy Marriage Team Member I bear the burden of being a Messy Married Mom. You know the type. My marriage isn’t always perfect, and my kids aren’t always perfect. Maintaining a fulfilling married relationship with my husband, Bryan is difficult enough on its own.  Add two tots to the mix, and the […]

5 Texts You Should Never Send Your Spouse

This past weekend, my husband and I had the privilege of attending our church’s annual marriage retreat. Our guest speaker was Doug Fields,* an amazing communicator and family man. He reminded us that technology has connected us with our world, while very often disconnecting us from our spouses. So in that spirit, here’s my advice […]

Why I Didn’t Leave My Husband

My husband and I are leading a marriage group through our church, using the book, Intimate Encounters. In the first chapter you’re asked to complete a marriage inventory that reveals how strong you are in specific areas of your marriage. It wasn’t a surprise to me that our strongest area is and has always been […]

Why Your Resolutions Aren’t Working

If you’re living in a messy marriage (and who isn’t to some degree or another?), you probably want change, at least for the better. Problem is, you might want that change to occur in your spouse rather than strapping the load to your own back. Mistake Number 1 – Expecting your marriage to get better […]

10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse

  Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my […]

Raising the Bar in Your Marriage?

Imagine, if you will, coming home from a long days work, expecting to bask in a warm welcome from the one who’s “supposed to have your back,” only to experience a tongue lashing so sharp that you feel like human hash browns—having been diced up and left on the floor to sizzle in the greasy […]

When Your Spouse Refuses to Work on the Marriage

by tizoultro There are times when dealing with a spouse who refuses to work on your marriage can feel overwhelming, hopeless, and even paralyzing. It’s easy to feel like giving up or to believe that you have no way to improve your relationship when you’ve been in that kind of frustrating situation for any length […]

Blaming Yourself for the Mess?

Sometimes we get hung up in a messy marriage because we blame our partner or even God, like I mentioned in my post last week, Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage. But sometimes we feel we’re the one to blame for the messes in our marriage. Are you burdened down with guilt and shame for […]

Consumed with Life = No Margin

There’s this scary idea that what’s most important about our lives will be captured by a “dash” on our tombstone … he/she was born in 1960/70/80 something, followed by the dash before the date of death. The real dilemma is, we all want to make our “dash” count, right? Photo by Jo Naylor But the […]

A Marriage Destroyed by Sin, Redeemed by Grace

Today’s article is another “Share Your Story”  from blogger, Megan Elzey who writes at Sunshine Through the Windows.   My husband, Scott, and I fell in love when he was a junior and I was a senior in high school. Although we married fairly young, we’d already been dating for 5 and a half years. […]