Falling Forward

Sometimes I let the doubts about who I am—messiness and all—get me down. I wonder, How can I ever lead others into healing and wholeness in marriage or life, if I don’t have it all together myself?   The reality is that very often I don’t feel qualified. I don’t feel capable. I don’t feel […]

Do You Really Want to Get Well?

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I like the perks that come with being sick. When you’re sick, you usually … Don’t have to do your daily responsibilities. Have someone to take care of your many needs. Are given more understanding and concern from those who are healthy. Can nestle down into some comfy […]

When My Love Isn’t Enough

“…I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of […]

Fighting for Your Marriage

Did your holidays bring home more than just irritating in-laws? Sometimes the stress of the holidays can magnify problems in your marriage that were on the backburner until now. Perhaps you feel as if you are in the fight of your life to save your marriage. First off, let’s consider … 3 Common Reactions to […]

Fighting for Your Marriage

Did your holidays bring home more than just irritating in-laws? Sometimes the stress of the holidays can magnify problems in your marriage that were on the backburner until now. Perhaps you feel as if you are in the fight of your life to save your marriage. First off, let’s consider … 3 Common Reactions to […]

Where to Find the Perfect Christmas Gift

Christmas can be a time of joy and laughter … But for many couples and families, it is a time of stress, fighting and over-extending. Not only do you have the pressures of buying fun and frugal Christmas presents for all of your family and friends, but you also have the pressures of cooking, cleaning, […]

Default

In lieu of a post from my hubster, Gary, I’m posting a video of a message he gave at our church recently. The title was “Default” and the idea is very much in keeping with the message of Messy Marriage. We all fall into default patterns that keep us from experiencing God’s empowerment to deal […]

Blinded by Boundaries

I want to show grace to my husband. Really, I do. But it’s not that simple. You know … what if, let’s say, I come upon my husband’s abandoned shoes and jacket in a heap on the floor!?* What? … Am I supposed to just pick them up and “enable” him to continue to treat […]

Words that Transform Our Marriages

It’s interesting that the challenge this week on Faith Barista is to finish this sentence “In God’s Heart, I am …” … because I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve been thinking about it, first of all, because I need to internalize how God feels about me. I don’t always feel “loved by […]

Feeling the Forgiveness

I’ve talked a lot about forgiveness on this blog, because I’ve learned first hand that it’s what brings calmness out of the chaotic and messy moments that I’ve had in my marriage. And it only makes sense that it should be the foundation of marriage, since forgiveness is the foundation of what Christ did for […]