Are You Consumed with Status?

Continuing on in our “Consumed” Series … I don’t know about your family, but my kids are all gearing up for the start of the school year. Thankfully my two oldest sons are out of the rat race of middle and high school, where the pressures to be a part of the cool crowd are […]

Consumed – The Negative Side of Blogging

Have you noticed how the Olympic games have captured the world’s attention? Viewers are consumed by the footage of the opening ceremonies, competitions and rivalries. As for the athletes, they’ve trained relentlessly for this world event for years—some for decades—and are consumed with winning.  Opening Ceremony of 2012 London Olympic Games It’s true that sometimes […]

7 Ways to Develop Empathy and Gain Insight into Your Mate

I’ve discovered there’s one common denominator for making a marriage messier and that’s … a lack of empathy. What is Empathy? Empathy is the ability to come alongside someone, and not only understand a person’s point of view, but also feel the other person’s pain. How Do You Develop Empathy? There are seven ways, among […]

How to Forgive the Continual Offender

  Okay, my title is a cleverly disguised attempt at “word-management.” Actually, what I really meant to say is, “How to Forgive Your Spouse” because … let’s be honest folks, our spouses offend us A LOT! We ask our spouse to pick up his/her dirty clothes and our spouse nods with agreement, but what do […]

Finding Purpose from Our Pain

  In case you don’t know it, I’m transitioning from a counselor to a life coach. Because of that, I’ve been working diligently over the past year and a half to develop my coaching niches. One of the areas I’ve researched has been finding and clarifying “purpose” or “calling” in peoples’ lives. What’s interesting is […]

When Your Spouse is "The Problem"

Years ago I had this blind-spot in my life. I felt like I had no control over the pain I was experiencing—especially at the hands of my husband. I felt like a helpless victim tied to the proverbial train tracks while my husband was the locomotive, barreling down the tracks and aiming right at me! […]

The Gradual Slide to Disconnection

 It’s a bittersweet moment to watch your son move from being a college student to being a college grad. I’m so happy for him and his huge accomplishment, but there’s something inside of me that wants to go back to the days when he ran to my arms for comfort or believed everything I said […]

Finding God in a Difficult Marriage

Today’s article is a response to the “Share Your Story” post from last month. The writer wishes to remain anonymous, but I thank her for her authenticity here just the same! I’ve been learning lately that conflict and pain can be used to deepen my character and grow my relationship with God.  But I often […]

Resurrecting Love

Remember the part of the marriage vow that says, “Till death do us part”? In our vows, we are referring to a physical death and know that this ensures our promise is for a lifetime.   But what if it is only in our dying … to ourselves that we really find each other? It’s […]

Learning the Hard Way

If you are in a messy marriage, you may feel like, “When are things going to get easier?” Maybe you’ve gone to counseling, you’ve prayed and prayed for your marriage, you’ve worked on communicating better with your spouse, you’ve read marriage book after marriage book, and next to nothing ever happens or changes for the […]