Is it Always Your Fault?

Do you feel like “the problem” spouse? by Chris Owens I know about this troubling dynamic, because I was the one blaming my spouse for the fault in our marriage—both verbally and in my head. I couldn’t escape the belief that my husband, Gary, was the problem! And if I could just “fix” him or […]

Trying to Grasp Grace

My church has been doing a series that deals with God’s redemption in the midst of brokenness. And one of the main focuses has been on forgiveness. I’ve done a lot of study and spent a lot of time trying to understand and exercise forgiveness in my life and marriage over the years. That is, […]

When Your Spouse Refuses to Work on the Marriage

by tizoultro There are times when dealing with a spouse who refuses to work on your marriage can feel overwhelming, hopeless, and even paralyzing. It’s easy to feel like giving up or to believe that you have no way to improve your relationship when you’ve been in that kind of frustrating situation for any length […]

Blaming Yourself for the Mess?

Sometimes we get hung up in a messy marriage because we blame our partner or even God, like I mentioned in my post last week, Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage. But sometimes we feel we’re the one to blame for the messes in our marriage. Are you burdened down with guilt and shame for […]

Mary DeMuth’s "Everything" – Book Offer!

Over the past month I’ve had the honor and privilege of being selected to be a part of Mary DeMuth’s Launch Team for her soon-to-be released book, Everything. One of the many opportunities that I was given was getting to read her book before its release to the public in mid October. But the best […]

Feeling Trapped in a Loveless Marriage?

Recently a comment caught my attention. First of all, because of the pain I was sensing in this person’s words, and second, because it got me to thinking about my own messy marriage journey. Here’s the comment to an article I posted about a spouse continually refusing to admit fault … My wife has behaved […]

How Making My Point Can Be Dangerous

photo by oe2azm Years ago when our kids were small, we had a habit of letting our tempers take us to heights of hostility and summits of stupidity. What made this “argumentative mountain climbing” worse was, we had our “kids strapped to our backs” as we clung to the jagged edges of our egos, anchoring […]

Is My "Comfort Zone" Really Safe?

We are continuing on in our series about being “consumed” and today the focus is on being consumed with comfort … Photo by kennymatic As I write this post, I sit in my “Easy Chair” with legs perched atop my pillow-covered ottoman. The A/C is set to a comfortable 77 degrees, but if that’s not […]

Are You Consumed with Status?

Continuing on in our “Consumed” Series … I don’t know about your family, but my kids are all gearing up for the start of the school year. Thankfully my two oldest sons are out of the rat race of middle and high school, where the pressures to be a part of the cool crowd are […]

Consumed – The Negative Side of Blogging

Have you noticed how the Olympic games have captured the world’s attention? Viewers are consumed by the footage of the opening ceremonies, competitions and rivalries. As for the athletes, they’ve trained relentlessly for this world event for years—some for decades—and are consumed with winning.  Opening Ceremony of 2012 London Olympic Games It’s true that sometimes […]