The Secret to Lasting Change

Continuing in our forgiveness series, we’re going to look at the GIANT-sized task we have in replacing hurtful patterns and living out and staying committed to healthy ways of thinking and relating in the reconciliation process {particularly in the context of marriage}. This means we’ll be looking at this from the perspective of the one […]

The Support Needed to Trust Again

Reconciliation is about rebuilding trust because … Trust cannot be given like love or forgiveness. Trust must be earned. Click To Tweet And trust is earned and established through respect and compliance with healthy boundaries and new ways of relating. So the first job for the two parties is to … Determine what you should […]

Desperate Marriage Myth #3 – Only Have 2 Options

The third myth in our Desperate Marriages series is – I have only two options, resigning myself to a life of misery or getting out of the marriage. This myth hangs on the coattails of last week’s post, Desperate Marriage Myth #2, People Cannot Change. Since you’ve determined that you and/or your spouse cannot change, […]

Book Review & Giveaway – Love to Stay

Today I’m interrupting my Desperate Marriage Myth series to do a book giveaway and review on the new release of Love to Stay by Adam Hamilton. I’m also attending the American Association of Christian Counselor’s conference in Nashville and may be delayed on replying to comments or blog hopping, but I will do my best […]

Love vs. Infatuation and WW Linkup

Love is . . . Developed in times of difficulty. Infatuation is . . . Spoiled in times of difficulty. Love is . . . Empowered by what is good and true. Infatuation is . . . Fueled by good times. Love is . . . A result of intentional and sacrificial choices that eventually […]

A Painful Year of Changes

Written by Heather CoppleMessy Marriage Team Writer This past year has been hard.  So much has happened and not all of it good. But then that is life. Thankfully, we don’t always have to like it. I know that I haven’t liked all the changes and I’m sure neither has my husband, Scott. Let’s start […]

Why I Didn’t Leave My Husband

My husband and I are leading a marriage group through our church, using the book, Intimate Encounters. In the first chapter you’re asked to complete a marriage inventory that reveals how strong you are in specific areas of your marriage. It wasn’t a surprise to me that our strongest area is and has always been […]

Dealing with Childhood Hurts

January’s “Share Your Story” is by, Shannon Little Shannon has been married for almost 15 years. She and Brian actually were divorced from each other for a few years and remarried 9 years ago.They have two sons, Cameron (13) and Caden (8).She lives by the mantra … balance mind, body, spirit. The depth of my “messy […]

How I Help My Husband … In His View

Today we are joining “Marriage Monday” to discuss the topic of  “helping our husbands” as referenced in Gen. 2:18.  I chose to interview the one I help, my husband, Gary.  Check out what he has to say on the subject …   What do you think God means when he created me to be your […]

In-Laws with "Depression" Stereotypes

Written by Scott and Heather CoppleMessy Marriage Team Members In-laws can cause all sorts of trouble in a marriage, especially when the married couple allows the intrusion of family. Our family of origin wreaks havoc on our marriage because of the baggage we bring along with us. Now, let the in-laws, themselves, enter the relationship […]