Will you meet ‘my’ needs? SJT Video

In this video, I share how anytime I seek my independence and focus on getting “my needs”* met in marriage, I create something of a “tug-of-war” with my husband. I offer a “work-in-progress” strategy that has changed the dynamic and atmosphere of my marriage drastically for the better whenever I use it! I hope you’ll check it out […]

Lessen Stress with 2 Thoughts! and WW Linkup

This is a long one—longer than I like to post—but it’s funny and, I think, worth the read! This past week we celebrated Thanksgiving here in the U.S. and I worked really hard … AND I worked really hard at shifting my focus from feelings of self-pity and negativity too! I think this time of year is […]

Wondering if God is there for you? And Linkup!

Do you ever struggle to feel like God is active in healing your marriage and life? Do you wonder if He hears your prayers or is “for” you in the daily struggles you encounter? I had a day yesterday that, if I lived by the circumstances or my feelings, could have confirmed that God was […]

Is my secret ‘safe’? Video

Yes, it’s that time of the week to grab your “cup of joe” and join me for another “sloppy joe time!” In this video, I talk about the way I allowed my angry thoughts about my spouse to go from a minor messy meditation to a festering monstrosity in no time!  I’d love it if you’d take less than 3 minute to watch! […]

The Communication Tool that Opens Hearts … and Linkup!

If you’ve been viewing over the past month or so my video podcasts, then you’re aware that I promised to tell you about a communication “tool” that my husband and I use to handle conflicts effectively. That tool is “reflective listening.” I’m going to provide detailed instructions on how to practice reflective listening in its […]

But what do you ‘feel’ about it? and Linkup!

As a life-coach and especially as a woman who’s always loved to explore the intricacies of feelings, I ask that question {in my title} a lot. That’s because most people tend to answer with what they think about a subject or proceed to tell me what they’ve done with that situation and slip right past the […]

14 Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

I’m interrupting my forgiveness series to shine a light, not necessarily on Valentines Day, but on how to make your spouse feel loved and special. I feel like that’s something we should be doing all throughout the year! Can I get an, Amen?! Here are some ideas {some I’ve tried, and some I hope to […]

5 Ways to be Safe for Your Spouse

Today we’re excited to have a guest post from my blogging buddy, Linda Stoll! She has graciously offered to help lighten my load this week while I continue with my radiation treatment. If you don’t know Linda, you really should get to know her! Not only is she an insightful and resource-FULL blogger, but she’s […]

5 Ways to Increase Affection in Your Marriage

Do you remember the Dave Matthew’s song, “Everyday”? More importantly, do you remember the funny video that accompanied the song? There are several versions out there but they always depict a guy going around town, making it his mission to collect hugs. I think my husband really “gets” that guy. He’s very affectionate and often […]

Speaking Different Languages of Love

Written by Heather Copple Messy Marriage Team Member   Ever think about what makes you feel loved by other people?  Gary Chapman wrote about it in the book, The 5 Love Languages. I’m going to talk about my husband’s and my primary love languages and the issues that have developed. We do not speak the […]