14 Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved

I’m interrupting my forgiveness series to shine a light, not necessarily on Valentines Day, but on how to make your spouse feel loved and special. I feel like that’s something we should be doing all throughout the year! Can I get an, Amen?! Here are some ideas {some I’ve tried, and some I hope to […]

5 Ways to be Safe for Your Spouse

Today we’re excited to have a guest post from my blogging buddy, Linda Stoll! She has graciously offered to help lighten my load this week while I continue with my radiation treatment. If you don’t know Linda, you really should get to know her! Not only is she an insightful and resource-FULL blogger, but she’s […]

5 Ways to Increase Affection in Your Marriage

Do you remember the Dave Matthew’s song, “Everyday”? More importantly, do you remember the funny video that accompanied the song? There are several versions out there but they always depict a guy going around town, making it his mission to collect hugs. I think my husband really “gets” that guy. He’s very affectionate and often […]

Speaking Different Languages of Love

Written by Heather Copple Messy Marriage Team Member   Ever think about what makes you feel loved by other people?  Gary Chapman wrote about it in the book, The 5 Love Languages. I’m going to talk about my husband’s and my primary love languages and the issues that have developed. We do not speak the […]

Feel like God Doesn’t Hear You?

Recently I’ve been reading through some of my old journals from many years ago and there was one story that really stood out—that seemed to tell not just a story of my life, but a story of how faithful God is. At the time of the writing, my husband and I were going through a […]

4 Expectations that Transform Hopelessness

  Recently our nation has experienced yet another tragedy through a devastating tornado that hit near Oklahoma City. As we as a nation grieve, I’m reminded that many of us face terrible trials and times of loss in this life. But I’ve found that when I change my expectations in the times of trouble, God […]

Are You Accidentally In-Validating Your Spouse?

A couple of weeks ago I wrote, “4 Ways to Validate Your Spouse” and one of my readers, Laura Lee of Outnumberedmom suggested that I write about what validation is NOT because many people think they’re validating someone when nothing is further from the truth. I totally agree! I’ve been there, in a deep conversation […]

How to Validate Your Spouse’s Feelings

Have you ever felt like you’ve shared your deepest feelings with your spouse only to be left feeling unheard, walled out or simply misunderstood? What you’re wanting—the missing link—is validation or acknowledgement of your feelings. But when validation is given, it can be like a warm emotional hug to someone who’s been left out in […]

Turning Correction into Motivation

Every messy marriage faces the challenge of correcting messy or wrong behavior in a spouse. We often think it’s our duty to point out where our spouse has gotten off track. And in some situations and when offered in the right spirit, that can be true. The trick is knowing how to communicate our observations […]

5 Texts You Should Send Your Spouse

1. I liked the way you … yesterday. They say it takes seven positive statements to make up for one negative. So we need to be sharing encouraging words with our spouses whenever we get the chance. And since most of us don’t see our spouses during the day, what a lovely way to brighten […]