Stuck in a Rut?

  If your marriage is like mine, you sometimes get stuck in a rut. Things may go along fairly smoothly for months or even years, but then you hit a pothole and get stuck. When you’re in that rut, it might seem like you’re constantly irritated with each other—or irritated with life, but you take […]

Have You Really Forgiven Someone?

I often hear people say, “Oh, I forgave him/her.” But sometimes I doubt the truth or reality of their words. It’s not that I don’t think they’re being sincere. It’s just that I think many people believe that forgiveness is simply a decision and nothing more.  Here’s why I think there’s more forgiveness work to […]

Two Ingredients of a Mess

What’s the main difference between someone who’s messy and someone who keeps his or her house in order? (Aside from those who can afford a housekeeper!) I think it’s that the organized or neat person is willing to face pain and do the hard work required to either avoid a mess or to clean it […]

Marriage Mistake #8 – Let My Spouse’s Bad Behavior Control Mine

The Mistaken Game My husband and I have had a game that we carried from our childhood into our marriage. No, we don’t play “Ken and Barbie” into all hours of the night, nor do we hold “who can belch the loudest?” contests either! You see, it’s the age old game of “Tit for Tat.” […]

Are You Wonder Wife or Super Hubby?

I don’t think many people will debate me on this, but I really think that there are about as many neat freaks in the world as there are slobs. However, I have another theory that many might not agree with so easily. I don’t think we can apply that principle to messiness in marriage. In […]

Are You Fencing out Your Spouse?

(The following post is only true for those who do not have abusive marriages.) My husband is a huge football fan. And since I’m not, I’ve learned to find other activities at this time of year, so that he’s free to cuddle up with his remote and zero in on the end zone.  Even though […]