10 of My Favorite Posts

I’d like to share ten of my favorite posts (in no particular order) that I’ve done here at Messy Marriage. Most are recent, but there are a few that go a bit further back in the vault. I hope you find them to be encouraging, thought-provoking and marriage-challenging! Validating Your Spouse’s Feelings Find God’s Redemptive […]

When Your Apology is Used Against You – And WW Linkup!

It’s never easy to make yourself vulnerable nor to lay your heart out on the table in a sincere and humble apology before the one person on earth who matters most—your spouse. But what’s worse is when your spouse uses your apology against you. Typically, a spouse won’t do this unless: Your spouse simply got […]

Find God’s Redemptive View – Printable

What would you add to my list here?   How have you seen “the unseen” of God play out in redemptive ways in your life as you look back?   If you’d like the printable of the graphic above or another one that has a slightly different design but the same message, please click on […]

‘Broken Together’ Video

I’m going to try and scale back here in order to spend a bit more time working on several book projects I have in the works. So I will be sharing my SJT videos every other week instead of weekly. But on the weeks that I discover a video that’s worth sharing, I’ll be sharing […]

Why are you so upset? SJT Video

Today I am continuing where I left off from my last Sloppy Joe Time video by dealing with the wounds that are often present in the conflicts of our marriages and lives. We may not see them, but in this video I give some tips for identifying them as well as what to do and […]

Redeeming the Year of the Broken-Down

I keep promising things I can’t really deliver. That is SOOOO not like me! I’ve always prided myself in my follow-through, but my life continues to be just.too.crowded. I keep thinking of the iconic scene in “I Love Lucy” where Lucy and Ethel were working in a chocolate factory and the speed is just too […]

When a Boundary Conversation Fails

Last week, I talked about a boundary conversation that was, for the most part, accepted by both parties. But what if you’ve confronted someone and he/she has dismissed or resisted your boundary conversation? What should you do then? First of all, there’s a difference between dismissing and resisting a boundary conversation. Normal Resistance Most people […]

Shame on You?!

There are many of who feel shameful for sin(s) you’ve committed, perhaps way in your past or even ones you still cling to and commit today. These shameful thoughts not only make your marriage and life “messier” … But are an insult to God! Yes, you heard that right! I might be heaping a bit […]

Fear the Impact of Others?

Isaiah 46:4-5 and 9 (hover over to view verses) Thoughts taken from my devotional time. Today I want to look at another concern that we get caught up in life and in marriage … the fear that others can thwart God’s good purposes in our lives. There are so many people in our lives {and […]

Running from God?

Isaiah 46:3-4 (hover over to view verses) Thoughts taken from my devotional time. God reminds us that He has upheld us since we were conceived (v.3). That means that God knew us and cared for us since the moment we were created or came into being—not just since our birth. Further, God reminds us that […]