Myth 1 & 2 – Forgive and Feel Better?

Today we’re addressing two myths – If I forgive, I will immediately and automatically feel better. If I forgive, I won’t feel hurt or angry again, no matter how many times my offender reoffends. One of the biggest motivators for me to forgive is the promise of feeling better. So let me clear – I’m […]

Grace Filled Marriage Book Review & Giveaway!

A while back I was asked to read, review and giveaway one copy of Dr. Tim Kimmel’s book, Grace Filled Marriage. So I packed my copy in my carry-on bag, taking it with me on our trip to England and Wales. It became my constant welcome companion on the British rail, while the beautiful English […]

How to Love Yourself

  I’ve heard a lot of talk lately in the blogosphere about “loving self.” Some say we need to do that because many of us are failing to truly love ourselves. Some say it’s a given that we love ourselves and that loving ourselves should not be our focus. I think both “camps” have something […]

Making the Hard Choices

Lately I’ve been feeling discouraged about my daily tendency to repeat certain sins. I often let pride, fear and selfishness reign instead of reaching out for and clinging to God. I’ve noticed it in the smallest of details in my day. Not just choosing wrong actions, but dwelling on sinful thoughts like they’re a melting […]

10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse

  Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my […]

Raising the Bar in Your Marriage?

Imagine, if you will, coming home from a long days work, expecting to bask in a warm welcome from the one who’s “supposed to have your back,” only to experience a tongue lashing so sharp that you feel like human hash browns—having been diced up and left on the floor to sizzle in the greasy […]

How to Forgive the Continual Offender

  Okay, my title is a cleverly disguised attempt at “word-management.” Actually, what I really meant to say is, “How to Forgive Your Spouse” because … let’s be honest folks, our spouses offend us A LOT! We ask our spouse to pick up his/her dirty clothes and our spouse nods with agreement, but what do […]

When Grace Trumps Justice

With it being a new year, I’ve done as most of you have done and reflected on what I want to change and resolve to do better in 2012. I am in the middle of reading the book, Forgiving and Reconciling by Everett Worthington and it is challenging me on my view and practice of […]

The Gift that Keeps on Forgiving

A couple of years ago, Gary (hubster) lent one of my books to a friend. After 24 years of marriage, our books live “commune-style”—what’s mine is Gary’s and what’s Gary’s is mine. I, however, don’t always like this arrangement, which brings me back to the “lent book situation.” Now, don’t get me wrong. Gary didn’t […]


Lately, I don’t know what it is, but I can’t seem to get my emotions to level out. I take that back, they really are finding a level . . . just at the lowest point imaginable! UGH! Now, I know that there are a lot of reasons why I might feel this way, but […]