How to Let Bitterness Go

Today I want to look at the difficulty of releasing any hurt or bitterness we feel due to the sins “someone we are trying to reconcile with” may continue to commit against us. I want to stress, this is for the person who has chosen to forgive an offending spouse, has emotionally and spiritually worked […]

One Attitude Keeping Us from Reoffending

Today in our forgiveness series I’m discussing, “How an offender can maintain perspective and humility, so that reoffending is avoided and diminished, and change is achieved.” I sometimes I don’t realize how my offending behavior hurts my spouse and seeing this is crucial to honoring his boundaries and avoiding reoffending him. Here are some reasons […]

How to Prepare for Reconciliation

Most broken relationships don’t have one offender and one victim who never swap roles. Most broken relationships involve two flawed and sinful humans who’ve hurt each other, sometimes deeply and often continuously. This is often especially true in marriage. And don’t forget that typically the people involved can’t see the extent to which they’ve hurt […]

5 Ways to be Safe for Your Spouse

Today we’re excited to have a guest post from my blogging buddy, Linda Stoll! She has graciously offered to help lighten my load this week while I continue with my radiation treatment. If you don’t know Linda, you really should get to know her! Not only is she an insightful and resource-FULL blogger, but she’s […]

Does forgiving let my offender off the hook?

Today we’re continuing in our forgiveness series, debunking the myth – “If I forgive, I’m letting my offender off the hook of responsibility.” Like most myths this one has both falsehood and truth. Let’s start with the truth … In Jesus’ parable of the “Unmerciful Servant” in Matthew 18:21-35, Christ’s example of forgiveness is illustrated […]

Myth 1 & 2 – Forgive and Feel Better?

Today we’re addressing two myths – If I forgive, I will immediately and automatically feel better. If I forgive, I won’t feel hurt or angry again, no matter how many times my offender reoffends. One of the biggest motivators for me to forgive is the promise of feeling better. So let me clear – I’m […]

Grace Filled Marriage Book Review & Giveaway!

A while back I was asked to read, review and giveaway one copy of Dr. Tim Kimmel’s book, Grace Filled Marriage. So I packed my copy in my carry-on bag, taking it with me on our trip to England and Wales. It became my constant welcome companion on the British rail, while the beautiful English […]

How to Love Yourself

  I’ve heard a lot of talk lately in the blogosphere about “loving self.” Some say we need to do that because many of us are failing to truly love ourselves. Some say it’s a given that we love ourselves and that loving ourselves should not be our focus. I think both “camps” have something […]

Making the Hard Choices

Lately I’ve been feeling discouraged about my daily tendency to repeat certain sins. I often let pride, fear and selfishness reign instead of reaching out for and clinging to God. I’ve noticed it in the smallest of details in my day. Not just choosing wrong actions, but dwelling on sinful thoughts like they’re a melting […]

10 Not-So-Helpful Things to Do for My Spouse

  Recently I wrote a post about the subject of helping my husband. You can refer to it here, if you’d like. But the idea got me to thinking … there are lots of ways I can help my husband but … There are also a lot of ways that I think I’m helping my […]