Father Issues, God Issues, Husband Issues

Let me just say upfront … I have father issues. Of course, that translates into issues with “men” as well, which might explain the title of this blog! But the fact is that my father issues create another drawback … my father issues affect my relationship with God.   I’ve done Bible studies, read books […]

Loving God Helps Me Love My Husband

Today’s post is written by Dineen Miller from Spiritually Unequal Marriage – a place where you’ll “find practical help and encouragement to thrive in your spiritually unequal marriage.” I will tell you, in all honesty, that I cannot love my husband in my own strength. It’s not possible. I tried to for a many years […]

The Anatomy of Bitterness

I took an Anatomy class in college. BIG.MIS.TAKE First of all, with the help of my lab partner, I had to skin a cat. Ewww! Then I had to familiarize myself so thoroughly with every in and out (organs, bones, muscles, nerves) of that sad cat that I had formaldehyde-filled dreams at night! But what […]

10 Benefits of Truth Telling

I’ve always been an open book—even when I didn’t (and don’t) intend to be. This tendency has become something of a strategy for me over the past 15 years or so. I say “strategy” because it’s something I’ve been very intentional about as I’ve discovered the power of the truth. Of course, there was a […]

The Gradual Slide to Disconnection

 It’s a bittersweet moment to watch your son move from being a college student to being a college grad. I’m so happy for him and his huge accomplishment, but there’s something inside of me that wants to go back to the days when he ran to my arms for comfort or believed everything I said […]

Watch Out for the "Stupid Stage"

Last week my husband and I attended the AACC Marriage America conference in Orlando. Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage and leader of one of the tracks I’d selected, discussed a concept that stood out for me. In Thomas’ class he outlined the seasons of marriage. The first of the marital seasons he aptly named, […]

Share Your Story Here!

Here at Messy Marriage our team tries to address all sorts of messy issues in marriage, but— believe it or not—we can’t experience ALL the problems that this world can throw at us. However, “collectively” our team has experienced quite a few! 🙂 My desire has always been for this to be a place where […]

Resurrecting Love

Remember the part of the marriage vow that says, “Till death do us part”? In our vows, we are referring to a physical death and know that this ensures our promise is for a lifetime.   But what if it is only in our dying … to ourselves that we really find each other? It’s […]

When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Bat For You – In-law Issues

Recently I suggested that I would be writing a post on how to set boundaries, but decided to focus on one common boundary problem—intrusive and critical in-laws.  Let’s say you have a mother-in-law who makes a habit of criticizing you to your spouse or in front of others. But let’s up the ante and say […]

Beyond Boundaries Book Review

What can I say? I loved this book! The first thing that struck me about Beyond Boundaries was how applicable the material is to a variety of situations. In other words, it’s not just for those who are trying to rebuild a relationship after trust has been broken. It can also apply to … Determining […]