6 Motivators for Improving Your Love Language Deficit

No one would argue that speaking our mate’s love languages can really improve the feeling of love in our marriages. But what do we do when our love languages conflict and change over time? And more importantly, what are the motivators for improving how often and how much we speak our mate’s love language in […]

The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]

When You’re Attracted to Someone Else

  Can you relate? You’ve been feeling it coming on for weeks, maybe months now. Every time you see this person s/he makes you feel special, noticed. You know it’s not right to feel this way about someone other than your spouse, but it’s been a long time since your spouse looked at you that […]

Love vs. Infatuation and WW Linkup

Love is . . . Developed in times of difficulty. Infatuation is . . . Spoiled in times of difficulty. Love is . . . Empowered by what is good and true. Infatuation is . . . Fueled by good times. Love is . . . A result of intentional and sacrificial choices that eventually […]