The Allure of the Illegitimate in Marriage

Today I’m continuing to unpack another way we can let our spouses control us with – “Choosing to have an affair or to look at pornography because you believe you’ve been deprived of ‘whatever’ in your marriage.” I have a sneaking suspicion that the spouses who need this message the most are not going to […]

12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage

If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who we are with our mates. That’s something we all should strive for! I just know that … […]

When You’re Attracted to Someone Else

  Can you relate? You’ve been feeling it coming on for weeks, maybe months now. Every time you see this person s/he makes you feel special, noticed. You know it’s not right to feel this way about someone other than your spouse, but it’s been a long time since your spouse looked at you that […]

Love vs. Infatuation and WW Linkup

Love is . . . Developed in times of difficulty. Infatuation is . . . Spoiled in times of difficulty. Love is . . . Empowered by what is good and true. Infatuation is . . . Fueled by good times. Love is . . . A result of intentional and sacrificial choices that eventually […]